Hi all, I know there will be a difference of opinion here but here goes ... how many beers per night (every night) after work is considered too many ?? What would you consider an alcoholic??
Hi all, I know there will be a difference of opinion here but here goes ... how many beers per night (every night) after work is considered too many ?? What would you consider an alcoholic??
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I think we are desensitised today alcohol in this country.
I’d be concerned if my partner drank every single day and was drinking on average more than 3 drinks per night. I would t necessarily jump to alcoholic at that stage.
If it started creeping beyond that I’d become concerned because alcohol causes other health problems and drinking isn’t something I want modelled for my kids.
I think it’s important to remind ourselves that a beer is 1.4 standard drinks and some people can drink a 6pack a night for awhile and then just cut back without an issue.
Every night? I guess one or two is ok however I personally think drinking every night is too much. Is he able to not drink?
I really dislike the term alcoholic, because when most people think of alcoholics they think of someone like the fictional Frank Gallagher (ie, falling down, slurred speech and covered in their own piss). The truth is that alcohol addiction can be subtle - well, it certainly can start subtly at least. People who have an unhealthy relationship with alcohol can be really good at managing to function well enough so that people either don't notice their drinking habits or they aren't concerned about habits they do notice because Bob still gets up for work everyday, has a nice house, is a good family man, etc....
These are some signs that would lead me to believe a person may be struggling with alcohol issues or addiction:
They're unable to not drink.
They drink every day without fail.
They're regularly hungover.
They gradually drink more in volume, drink more frequently or drinking sessions start earlier/end later.
They can't or don't want to stop drinking once they've started (binge drinking).
They become belligerent after drinking or behave out of character in a negative way.
They spend excessive amounts of money on alcohol or go without necessities in order to afford alcohol.
They consistently prioritise alcohol above other basic needs, such as personal hygiene, eating, sleeping.
They prioritise alcohol above family time.
They don't care about the health impacts of drinking above the recommended amount of alcohol.
They make bad choices whilst drinking.
They then blame alcohol on those bad choices and fail to take personal accountability.
They don't care about their loved ones concerns.
They drink to cope with stress.
They become withdrawn or 'absent'.
If they drink daily or have to weekly even, that's an alcoholic..
Mine drinks 4-5 cans a night 12% Cans and he has a huge problem I believe
I’d agree with you there.
I could have written this myself.. My husband drinks every day without fail. He starts in the afternoon after work and drinks until bed.
I HATE it!
I hate that my kids see it and think it’s normal. I hate that he doesn’t think it’s a problem. I hate that he gets defensive when I bring it up. I hate that he smells of beer when I’m sleeping next to him. I hate that he thinks I’m trying to “change” or “control” him when I bring it up. I hate the damage he is doing to his body. I hate that such a strong-minded person can be so weak and not be able to control this habit.
My husband is not drunk when he does this (only if he goes out on the weekend) but I think that’s because he is so used to drinking that he has built a tolerance up... He will easily have 6+ beers every night which I KNOW is too much (and that’s not counting the weekend binge sessions).
I should clarify, he gets up every morning to go to work and is what I would call a functioning alcoholic.
Some may disagree with me but I think someone has a problem if they have to drink every single day. My mum was an alcoholic she could get very abusive. Sadly it killed her in the end. My husband now drinks every single day and also gets abusive. He can't go a night without to the point where one night we had none so he called his brother and asked him to bring over a 6 pack. If it continues then I will leave him. I can't live the rest of my life like this I want better for my children and refuse to put them through what I went through.
Anymore than 2-3 a night. I totally get this my husband is an alcoholic even though he says he isn’t. He would easily have 2-4 a night and work is just an excuse. I don’t mind him having beer but he needs to realise he is an alcoholic because he can’t go without it. he also drinks way more on the weekend staggered out over the day. he is mostly good with alcohol but he can change at times never abusive though else I’d be gone.