just After some advice regarding a friend who is going through some pretty severe domestic violence. Without going into too much detail a friend of mine has taken out an avo on her partner he is also facing criminal charges but he is still harassing her sending her messages and driving past the place she is staying several times a day and scaring the shit out of her all while on bail. Yet the police won’t do anything. She is literally scared for her life and the police say they can’t do anything. There are copies of the messages and video of him driving past. It’s pure intimidation. So I guess my question is what can we do when the police can’t or won’t help?
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It’s so frustrating. If I was her I’d never be on my own. I’d probably go stay with friends and change where I stay regularly.
It’s terrifying. Has she considered going to stay in a shelter? I know services can get pretty overwhelmed at times but this is something she seriously needs to consider doing.
Move somewhere he cannot find her immediately and just keep reporting everything. Leave nothing out. Don’t feel like a nuisance or pest. The police need to build a case. She needs to leave where she is. Forget about the police in that respect. All they can do is take the reports and file them. Until it is all heard by a magistrate it’s up to her to keep herself safe. The legal side takes a while and she can’t be a sitting duck.
I’ve have reported 10breaches on my ex adjourned 3 times so far and has been going since September last year 🙄 Its painful but just buckle down.
From what I have learnt and been told by police, there is nothing they can do to help until he physically hurts her and she has witnesses. My ex sent me detailed messages from his own person phone about how he was going to kill me and our children, that he had keys to my house, new where I was ect. I showed police and begged for help. They told me that anybody could have sent those messages from his phone and to call them once he had forced entry to my home, then they would send someone over to have a look.
Does he legally need to know where she is? If he doesn't then I would find somewhere else for her to move to. She must be exhausted constantly being on watch.
Probably not the most legal of measures but if it were me I would probably also get one of my very scary looking friends to go and have a sly word with the partner..... but that's just me.
Thank you all for your replies she is staying somewhere else tonight and she always has people around it’s such a frustrating situation xx OP
Given recent events if police are saying that then that is a totally unacceptable response. Go with her and speak to the DV liaison officer at the local police station. If you get no response there you need to escalate it contact your local member and minister for police. None of them want another event of this magnitude on their watch at the moment.
From reading the comments where they think they know who they are talking to. They sound like bitter pieces of shit who hold a grudge for having to support their child and I’m not surprised that your friend had to get an AVO to protect herself and her child. If they’re talking like that on an anonymous post they obviously have no class. They belong in the gutter and I hope the judge sees right through their shitty behaviour. They sound like the people who are constantly bagging mums when they’re asking for assistance on payments they may or may not be entitled to. They write similar things and they’re just angry and have issues. Good Luck to your friend. I hope she stays safe. Self entitled people who think they’re god are really just pieces of shit you want to avoid stepping on incase you get your shoes dirty!
I totally agree with this. Just wow that theres such a dangerous person in here among us. Thank God it's not physical and is just web related, but I feel the OP's situation is genuine and if not careful could be another statistic by the animalistic human who posted her name here.