Hi. So tonight I picked up Hubby’s phone and I don’t even know why, but I opened his messenger. I don’t snoop and I don’t know what made me look but there was a msg from someone who he works with sexual content. She was doing to more obvious “flirting” but his reply’s did not ask it to stop. There was even reference to a song “Cool for the Summer”. And she said replace “mother” with “your wife/my husband”.
Here’s some of the lyrics:
Tell me what you want
What you like
It's okay
I'mma little curious too
Tell me if it's wrong
If it's right
I don't care
I can keep a secret could, you?
Got my mind on your body
And your body on my mind
Got a taste for the cherry
I just need to take a bite
Don't tell your mother
Kiss one another
Die for each other
We're cool for the summer
(Ha)
His reply to her: “Nice interesting Song”
I don’t know what to do? Do I mention it? I hate that i found out because I was snooping.
We have been rocky for a while but I NEVER thought he would cheat..... and I still don’t know if it’s technically cheating.... or am I just fooling myself. I haven’t been the best wife but to me it’s still no excuse.
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Message the bitch yourself! Tell her to back off. Don't even tell him you saw it. I would also send screenshots of what shes been sending to her husband. Waste no time with home wreckers!
Personally I would not fight for someone with a foot already out the door... he’s cheating. I would never not once fight to keep someone that’s not all in.
He's not responding in the same way she is, it sounds like she's making all the moves and he's playing dumb or is dumb. He should have shut her down but maybe he thinks that is going to make work life hard.
So she’s flirting and saying sexual things to him, but what is he saying to her? It’s a bit hard to say it’s cheating.
This, that’s interesting can have many meanings.
It sounds like he isn’t actually interested in this woman, he’s playing it boring hoping she goes away.
Just an outside the box perspective here.
Maybe he knows that this woman has the potential to make his work life hard if he shuts her down point blank.
Maybe he's not entirely sure how to deal with it and he's just humouring her hoping she'll stop.
That particular song on its own is pretty lame, sending it in lyric form is embarrassingly cringe worthy. His reply of "That's an interesting song" I interpreted as a polite way of saying just that.
I don't think there's enough to suggest that he's cheating but there's definitely some issues within your relationship that need addressing.
Be honest with your husband.
You were snooping you just dont want to admit it to yourself. Get his side. Ask him if there more going on. Tell him it makes you feel uncomfortable. If you can't be honest with him how can you expect him to be honest with you?
Commit to fixing your relationship and give him the opportunity to do the same. He has already crossed a line and you have to. Time to be an adult and talk to your husband.
I’d do more snooping!! Clearly something going on.
I’d say something has already happened by his reply.
I wouldn’t approach him until I’d done more investigations.
DO NOT LET HIM KNOW THAT YOU FOUND IT, BECAUSE THERE US NO USE, HE WILL DENY IT. JUST KEEP SNOOPING AND WATCHING OUT FOR UNUSAL BEHAVIOUR. HAVE PROOF FIRST WAIT, FOLLOW HIM ANYTHING IT TAKES THEN BUST HIS ASS ONCE YOU KNOW FOR SURE. CHEATER LIE AND WILL DENY..!! NO MATTER WHAT BE SMART ABOUT THIS AND FIND OUT EVERY LITTLE DETAIL YOU CAN. CHANCES ARE PEOPLE AT HIS WORK ALREADY SUSPECT IT OR KNOW. SIT IN CAR PARK NEAR HIS WORK, SO HE CANT SEE YOU WHEN HE FINISHES OR FOLLOW HIM. I THINK HE IS A CHEATER..
Play dumb and don’t tell him. Suss him out. She sounds like she likes him. Hard to tell if the feeling is mutual going by this. Keep snooping because you won’t get the truth from him or her. don’t give yourself up until you know for sure. keep playing dumb. Only way to get the truth. Ask his work friends, stalk her anything. Just don’t let him know you read it else he will delete everything and be one step ahead next time if he is up to something. Why the hell would she even send that.