Estranged father-in-law wanting to put my 3 kids in his wil.
He meet my first born but when he was 18 months we stopped speaking went on to have 2 more kids he’s never meet
My husband has given him details of kids as my father-in-law wouldn’t know birthdays middle names
We had a massive fight as I would rather they got nothing from this man
Wills and estranged father-in-law
Wills and estranged father-in-law
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Umm its not up to you. You don't get to make this choice for your kids. I would be pretty pissed off if I found out my Mum stopped me inheriting anything from a will. I really don't see what your problem is.
Is your husband also estranged or just you? You haven't given a whole lot of detail and I'm not really sure what advice you're after
I think it depends. Is them being left something in the will likely to traumatise the children? If not, let them have the money.
He could be the biggest arsehole In the world, doesn’t mean your kids won’t find the money useful.
He can’t be that estranged as your husband has some contact with him.
It's your husbands family, his call. Unless there's abuse you don't get to cut him off completely.
He doesn't need your permission or anyone else's permission to put your kids in his will. Sounds like you are sour towards this man for whatever reason and trying to use your kids against him so you've lost your shit at this fairly normal situation because it's out of your control. Unless he has seriously abused your kids there's really no need to act like this, you are acting like a 5 year old.
They aren't only your children and clearly the kids father was happy for them to be put in his own father's will. End of story.
Why pick a random fight with your husband for telling his father what his own kids names are ! I am reading this right arent I? They are 'his' kids too not just yours.
He's the kids grandfather isnt he? Why are you so hell bent on them getting no money from his will? I think you should fill us in with why otherwise it's too hard to answer this properly.
I've never met my biological grandfather. By all accounts, he's a pretty abhorrent human being.
If he decides to leave me some cash when he croaks, I'm not gonna say no out of principle (even though I have Buckley's of that actually happening lol).
If my mum were to in some way stop me from receiving an inheritance because of her own personal vendetta, I'd be pretty annoyed to be honest.
Have you heard the saying "Don't cut off your nose to spite your face"?
I think it kind of applies here...
Take emotion out of the equation for a minute and spare a thought for how an inheritance may potentially help your kids one day. I mean, it could go towards their first car, uni fees, their first bond or even house deposit. God only knows the cost of living is only going to keep going up, our generation of kids are going to need every step up they can get.
Ultimately, it's not your choice to make and I think you probably owe you husband an apology unless by giving out the kids details has somehow put them in genuine danger (which I really doubt).