Do you just feel lonely? I’m constantly surrounded by people, but often feel lonely in myself. I have recently stepped back and really notice that I have many friendships that I put most of the effort into. I feel like I don’t often get checked in on. Or asked how I am. Or organise catch ups. Or even have anyone do anything thoughtful for me off their own bat. I’ve never really noticed it until lately and it’s probably been like that most of the time, but it’s actually really made me feel really sad. The really noticeable point was, when all of my friends kids started school, I messaged and I asked how their child went, how they went etc, but I got nothing And my child is the youngest out of everyone. And I know it’s a busy time of year, but not even a Facebook comment or something small. Just kinda hurts? Am I being really immature in feeling like I need attention? Because that’s how I feel.
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I get it. I'm the same. No one asks how I am. I'm just the supportive one who gets all the crap & none of the fun. I get to hear the complaints, their successes, asked for BIG favors & to give support but even a lunch request on a kid free day is met with 'too hard', but they're always going out with other friends.
It's happened x 3 friends this month - I'm at the point where I'm just done with friends & some family. It's just too heartbreaking being treated like rubbish.
They're not your people anymore, and that's ok.
Let the friendships go and put that effort into finding your now people. That is hard enough to do let alone while still trying to engage in one sided relationships.
I have just been through this myself with a 10 year friendship she was like my sister,she became insecure and nasty,it hurt alot! But i just figured i have grown as a person and she just didn't like it and became jealous and tried to bring me down,she needed me below her in order to exist,wasn't gonna happen,i would just back off and let them come to you x
No solution or answer sorry
But want you to know your not alone
I Feel the same
Going through this too, a total re-evaluation of my circle. Don’t feel sad about it though, I feel empowered because it means the relationships of the future are going to be balanced and on a mutual playing field.
About 8 years ago I was in the same boat. So I stopped contacting everyone and waited to see how long it was before each person contacted me. Eight years later I'm still waiting.