I asked my partner when he would want kids and he said not until he is older (he is 25) and I am 22. Which is honestly okay with me as I am not ready to be a mum either .. but when is the best age (based on the ticking time bomb clock) to have children ??
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It will vary depending on your health. Things like endometriosis, PCOS etc can all play there parts. So it’s always a good conversation to have with your GP, especially if you have any medical conditions.
Generally once 35 hits you have to start becoming concerned. Under the 30 years old is ideal.
I have always thought under 30 and youre usually good. Over 35 and its known to be harder... but just above said, it depends on your overall health. And his too...
The thing is best age biologically doesnt mean much compared to being mentally, financially and socially ready. I find you either feel ready, or you don't.
When you can mentally, emotionally physically and financially afford to do it 🤷♀️. Travel, save, build a bit of a career and may be 28-30?
Such a vast variety of time. I had my first at 15 and my last at 32. Its individual for everyone
The healthiest time to have a baby is during your fertile years. The best time is different again because its so individual. I had all my kids done and dusted by 23 and I'm now 39 and have really started doing everything I couldn't do in my late teens/twenties like travelling, going out whenever we like, going to see shows, going on mini road trips. I have friends my age that have waited too long and they are either just starting to have babies now or haven't even started. If you want kids don't wait for everything to be perfect because it never will be. Young kids are quite easy to raise on a low budget, you do not need to be financially independent before starting a family this can be achieved while raising a family. There's no shame in receiving ftb while your kids are young, we pay taxes for a reason.
Fertility wise, in you 20s and early 30s. In terms of having body weight, skin elasticity etc not change as much in the long run, early to mid 20s, though for some people this just isn't an issue at all. I'm just saying that your skin has more collagen etc and metabolism will be naturally faster when you're younger. In terms of being financially stable, having a career that is sufficiently established enough not to set you back with a few maternity leaves etc and buy a house before you have the money pit that is children, late 20s to early 30s.
Honestly there is no magic time. You and hubby just need to find a timeframe that works for you.
If marrying is something you want, don’t have kids until you’ve had your wedding.
Many mums on here with men they hav even with for ten years, three kids etc. and their husbands won’t marry them, even though they want to.
Good point. I read planning children and just assumed they were married. I think if both people don't believe in marriage, no worries. But if 1 does want to be married, if the other isn't able to commit to them in a marriage, having child will just make it even harder.
I had my twins at 21 they are nearly 13, had my youngest at 32 and I'll be honest and say I had less issues and a pretty good pregnancy at 21 then I did with my last one where I had many of complications.
I had one at 23 and another at 26 and another at 32 and the one at 32 body wise was very tough, also because I had two kids already that I needed to get to school. If it was my first it may have been different. I would say 25 to 35 is the happy medium but I wouldn't space them out.