Advice needed please.
I've been dating a man on and off for a year. I love him but not in love with him. We have broken up 4 times but somehow end up back together. Deep down I know the relationship isn't working but I just can't seem to stay away. He is a great guy, loves my kids etc, I so want it to work but I'm not in love with him. I'm pretty sure he feels the same way but we just can't let go. It's not the sex because we hardly ever have it. It has become an unhealthy attachment and my anxiety is through the roof. How do we break away and stay away from each other? I have even considered moving away.
Edit: we have blocked each other by all means of contact/social media many times, but it's just as easy to unblock and text each other again. HELP.
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When you make the break you need to set your life up so it’s harder to go back. Block him on social media, block his phone number. Keep yourself busy. Journal on what you want your life to look like as a single person.
Do lots of stuff with your kids. Have a plan of who you are going to call instead of him. Change the places you hang out so you don’t find yourself driving past his house etc. Hold yourself to account.
Don’t fool yourself that you can be friends. You can’t be friends.
I could have wrote this as I’m in the same boat.. as hard as it don’t go back.. delete his number, block him from all social media, don’t have any mutual friends.. make your kids your priority.. it’s hard mumma but you’ve got this!