I have noticed every 3 to 3.5 years I struggle with my marriage.
We have been married 10 year's and together longer. Recently I have once again struggled.
Everything is great. It's like I get bored. The butterflies disappear. We spend a few months working on things (grass isn't greener and I have no intention to leave even if they were), things improve, then a few years later I'm back to feeling bored, wondering if this is all there is.
I know relationships take work. But is this normal? Should I get bored so easily. My husband tells me it's normal. But he says he never feels how I feel. He still gets butterflies when I enter the room and nothing ever feels forced.
We have children. We both work full fime. Maybe its just everyday life routines I find boring. I guess it's hard to make time for each other.
I guess I just want to know if it's normal to feel like this every now and then. Will it ever stop or will we always find ourselves back in this same place.
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I feel this is normal for me. I don't think I get bored of my partner specifically, I just get bored of our whole life sometimes lol
We live a very normal life and we are routine people and sometimes I'm like, wow... is this all our life will ever be?
But it's just a feeling that passes. And then I remember why I love routine and why I choose him every single day over a life of instability or wankers.. lol
Wow! It's nice to know that this is the norm for others too. No advice but I understand! It frustrates me to be honest.
I feel it’s normal.
It's not a bad thing, it's normal ebb and flow of life. If it was all rainbows and butterflies all the time then *that* would be boring too. As couples, employees, parents, people, we will get bogged down in the day-to-day routine. Focusing on how boring it is will make it seem worse. Do little things to break up the mundane.
Thank you everyone.
It make me feel so much better to know I'm not alone in this!
It’s totally normal, you just have to ride through it and come out the other side or move on. Doing the same thing everyday gets boring no matter what it is. A relationship is no different. As long as you want to stick with it and rediscover what made you fall in love with that to begin with you will be fine. Maybe a day trip is in order to bring some spontaneous spark back in to your day