I need advice.. I feel like I’m stuck in a rut. I’m unhappy with the way my life is going. I’m very overweight. My partner and I have a very sedentary lifestyle and with unhealthy eating it’s got me to a point where I don’t have any energy. I’m always tired. We both have demanding jobs but I just want more out of my life. The kids deserve more than this. I feel like I am not who I used to be. That life has little joy outside of making my kids happy. My partner is great but he’s very negative and it stresses me out. There’s always something that ruins the day. I’m just unhappy and want to change but don’t know how. What do I do! Has anyone been here? How did you get out?
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When I feel stuck I find making small changes spread out over time work best. If I try and change too much at once it just too hard and I’m back to the old ways pronto.
One change at a time until it’s part of my routine.
That could be as simple as eating 1 piece of fruit a day, or parking your car further from work so you have to walk.
Wow you have literally written exactly how I’m feeling, word for word!
It's one thing to be miserable, it's quite something else to do something about it. You need to be so over your situation that nothing and no one can stop you from changing. I was there 3 years ago. I started walking with kids on scooters or bikes around local walk ways. Hit my 10,000 steps everyday. I dragged those whinging miserable bloody kids around that park becuase I didn't have anyone to look after them and that wasn't enough to stop me. Halved our portions and introduced lots of fresh fruit and veg. MADE TIME to excercise, meal prep and invest in ME. You can do it without a gym, without a pill, without anyone encouraging you. But you have to want it that bad! I have lost and kept off 20kg. My mind and and life is better for it.
We just got a new puppy for Christmas as a way to become a more active family. Kids take her for little walks, I take her on longer walks for my fitness and we are going to puppy training classes so all the kids can teach her as well.
I don’t know if you have pets or are able to but it was a positive for us and reason to get up extra early, eat well to have energy for playing and walking etc.
There is a medication out called contrave - it’s purpose is to stop the body craving things and control the cravings eg: takeaway, sugar, soft drink etc. it can take up to 16 weeks to have full effect but most people feel positive effects a lot sooner. It’s not an appetite suppressant and it isn’t anything like duromine etc it’s about getting control back over you food. Also it helps with anxiety. It could be a good kick start for you - downside is it’s expensive and if you don’t have private health you won’t get any back.