Where do I start, I love my husband when he is happy he is perfect, but he get angry so quickly he swears at me at the kids, hates being around people, thinks everybody is out to get him I get embarrassed when he goes off and tbh I am over the “ lectures” When I can’t do something “ right “ its a hour lecture that I can’t do anything. We all walk on eggshells. No physical violence towards me but has lost it with our son once I was horrified. I was always a happy go lucky person now I suffer anxiety and don’t like going out cause I am worried what he is going to be like. He won’t get help. How do I get him to understand he needs help.
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staying and tolerating there behaviour tells them ‘there isn’t really a problem’
He is basically acting in an emotionally abusive manner towards you. Until such time as he believes he needs or wants help, there isn't much you can do. Your best option is to seek help for yourself to enable you to become stronger, you can then decide whether to continue the relationship or leave. Your GP can refer you to a Psychologist or Social Worker or you can contact your local family violence support service for support.
It only ever gets worse, never better. Leave now and take your son before it does get worse
Um so your husband is NOT perfect. And it's a big issue. You need to address it or watch him abuse you further.
Maybe a psychologist or marriage counselor, Relationships Australia might be able to help you navigate best options for you, family and him. All the best.
I feel like I wrote this 12 months ago! I was at my wits end and was sick of walking on egg shells all the time... but now, he’s cool as a cucumber again (with a few minor outbursts, but don’t we all). I don’t have much advice, but if you want to stay and work it out, seek help for you all (support, medical, counseling etc). If you don’t want to stay, find support from family and friends and move out.
My husband was like this for a good 6 months- turns out he was suffering from depression and couldn’t work up the courage to ask for help. 2 years now on meds and he’s a completely different person. Get to the bottom of why he’s acting that way and don’t let up. It’s not normal behaviour for anyone