Am i crazy or is he?
So.the ex and i broke up in september.
He was controlling and started to change and be angry.
So i left.. moved out.
He has been starting to contact me. We had been seeing.each other slowly.
So he comes over yesterday.. he then disappears into the toilet and is gone for ages.
I cant find my phone..
He comes out and helps me look.
Its on the toilet floor.. and my screen is now a photo of him..
I am like o..k...
So then i open my phone. He has screenshot a message to a male friend..
He has been my friend for years.. it said..
Hey gorgeous miss you. Life is crazy will chat to you soon.
I ask my ex.. did you go through my phone..
He says yes and you are a slut.. i knew you were dodgy and you can get out of my life..
2 days before xmas.
We have kids together.
I explained that this guy is a friend and nothinf more..
Ex said.. You are dead to me.
I am so confused and lost.. have i done something wrong
He told me i am a flirt and a slut.. but i havent been with anyone.
When we were togetjer he had a female friend who sent him messages and he woulf delete them. He even told me.he was going to a concert with the guys but went with her.. he said he lied to protect me
I am so sad. Alone xmas day and i feel like a shit person..
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What do you care? He's a fuck head, a lying fuck head at that. Put a lock on your phone and treat him as an ex.
If you mope around for Christmas he wins. Get your ass out there, hang out with friends for the day. Most bigger families readily accept a straggler.
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The only thing you've done wrong is allowing him to crawl back into your life and allowing him to steal your emotional energy!
He wants you to feel worthless and confused! He wants you to feel sad and isolated!
You know why?
Because he knows he has some serious short comings, he's insecure, he's scared, he knows that you deserve better, he knows you'd be better off without him and he's terrified that you'll figure all that out and desert him.
That's why he treats you like shit, that's why he wears you down. Because he knows that he can manipulate you and get exactly what he wants when your self esteem is in the dirt.
Your self esteem is in the dirt right now, isn't it?
You need realise your worth! If you can't do it for yourself right now, then do it for your children. You might think this is the type of relationship you deserve but I know that you don't believe that your children deserve to witness this kind of toxic, dysfunctional thing their parents got going on.
He’s projecting, everything he is, he is putting onto you.
Listen to what he accuses you of, they may as well be his confessions.
Whilst you’re at it, look up gaslighting, it may also tick some boxes.
It’s not you, it’s him, you are your beautiful self, but he isn’t.
There is nothing grey here. He is manipulating you. Trust that you are worth someone decent and caring
Don’t let him back in your life! He will never bring you happiness.
No need to be confused and no you are not a shit person. You are free to do what you like.
He has NO right to come over to your place, take your phone and go through it and then have the audacity to make you feel like you did something wrong.
This should reinforce to you that you did the right thing by leaving this is what abuse is. Don't draw out this relationship, it will never get better and you will waste years of your life and it will psychologically screw you up and you deserve much better.
The only reason to see him and speak to him is about the kids.
Best wishes
You have done nothing wrong. It’s as simple as that.
Enjoy your Christmas and be happy he’s out of your life.
What he's doing is emotionally abusive, he doesn't want you to see anyone else and is trying to make you feel bad about yourself. Unless he admits he needs help he'll likely never change. I would stay away from him and get help for you to become stronger and believe in yourself. A family violence support agency such as Safe Steps can point you in the right direction.
He's got something to hide.
Move on hunny.
Get rid of him ASAP..!!! His loss not yours. He is a complete narcissist
Why are you still with him.?!! Get out of there. Protect your kids. He is nuts!
He is a loser!
This is the beginning of domestic violence. Leave and do not go back. It will get worse every time you go back or accept this behaviour. Google it. Read others stories of how this shit starts. Get rid of him.
He is an idiot. Flick him like a dried booger
He is an idiot. Flick him like a dried booger