Hi sisters my step sons mother is playing her little games once again. We booked a holiday for the week we have him. So she goes and books him into swimming lessons the whole week we have him. When his father said he cant do them because we're going away she says we cant he has to attend and if he doesn't take him she'll stop access the entire holidays. We have him half the holidays week about. Now he doesn't need the swimming lessons its only because his cousins do it too so she says he has to aswell. I dont know how she figures its fair to do that. Thats his time with him. She said shes not stopping us from going just him but we have him so im guessing she wants him with her at that time. Im so sick of her games .its been going on since day 1 because my partner never wanted to be with her. My step son was from a 1 night stand . Do you think thats fair she just expects this even though she knew we had booked a holiday? It's just put a huge cloud over Christmas.
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No, it's not fair. She should not have booked anything during his time without checking first. Is it court ordered access? Tell her if she withholds access you will be seeking legal advice if it is, if not he can tell her that he's going to start the process to get access cemented in. It won't look good for her if she has kept her child from him just over swimming lessons.
Call her bluff! She is being unreasonable.
Seek legal advice. She doesn’t get to control what you do with your time
No it’s not fair. She should have checked with dad first. Definitely get legal advice.
Its not court ordered but they went through mediation and agreed to half holidays. 5 nights a fortnight pretty much all the stuff regarding ss. Its been in place for 6 years and she has all through the years played games her and her mother try everything to get between ss and his dads relationship. For 9 years its been constantly up and down. Its just getting so tiresome. I know its jealousy. Jealous we have a daughter together and ss loves her to bits shes 5. Jealous we have our family(5 kids between us) and she still lives with her parents . Im tired of dealing with a middle aged woman who acts like a child.
Lol, when the step mums think the bio mums are jealous of them 😂😂😂
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Lol when the birth mum's are still so petty and bitter and like to claim they are not jealous but then pull this shit it is obviously jealously and you my dear are obviously still a bitter bm 🤣🤣🤣 how funny you would comment this, it says more about you then the OP lol
Not the OP but yes, I'm a step mum that believes bio mum is jealous of me! When my partner and I got together she had already been in another relationship for over a year, but when she found out about me something switched on in her brain like she didn't want anyone else playing with her toy she doesn't want anymore. She broke it off with the new guy and was constantly ringing and texting my partner, if he was with me she would be quite horrible to him, without me she was nice as pie! She eventually learnt he wasn't going back to her and she has been nothing but trouble for us. She hates me and we have never spoken or interacted in any way! I'm super nice to her kids and respectful, there's no other reason for her to hate me besides jealousy.
If my ex’s partner ever referred to me as “bio mum” I’d be livid! I’m their mum that is it. Their one and only my mum
If my ex’s partner ever referred to me as “bio mum” I’d be livid! I’m their mum that is it. Their one and only my mum
Re "bio mum"... my 3 stepkids refer to me as their mum, and "bio mum" to their actual mum. They were teens when I met them 11 years ago. Despite our efforts, their relationship with mum is nonexistent.
If my ex’s partner ever referred to me as “bio mum” I’d be livid! I’m their mum that is it. Their one and only my mum
You said you went through mediation..that is court orders. She.can not break them or she will be in breach.
Mediation is not court orders. You have to lodge the actual orders with court to obtain a court seal to make them orders.
She sounds like a jealous hag.
My husbands ex was the same. She was so jealous of me and more so when we had our daughters. She was trying to get pregnant but was morbidly obese so it wasn’t happening. She actually expected my husband to miss the birth of our baby if we had the kids visiting when I went into labour. We said that we would have their Grandma and Aunty mind them and she pretty much said if they were here on our weekend that they were to be with their Dad and no one else.
Why is this even a question?
FFS, tell your man to grow some balls and go away as planned.
Don’t enter into any conversation, it’s your time, do as you please.
I understand this completely, we do week about, and always come back in a Monday. Long weekends were a pain!! I honestly dreaded them because mum would always take as camping and on the Monday never bring him home insisting he needs to stay with her 1 more night... 1 night... it caused so many shit storms that I hated that long weekend every year.
I’m afraid I have no advice other than call her bluff! Take him away with you. We always did the same. Worst that happened was she didn’t pay child support to us any year she owed it. We just accepted it to be honest