Hi, after some advice, I’ve been divorced for a number of years and have recently started seeing someone who has been separated for a few years, their ex partner has moved on years ago. How do you deal with people who are having trouble accepting you seeing someone who isn’t yet divorced even though both parties have moved on?
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I was still legally married and engaged at the same time after my ex and I split up. Its more common than it seems.
How do people even know that! People are so judgy these days..
People who matter won't give a rats ass.
I have been with my parter 5 years, moved to the other end of the country, had 2 nearly 3 babies and guess what..... he’s still married. No body cares, nobody asks. But it’s definitely not uncommon anymore.
Why does anyone even know?
I don’t go out much but surely it’s not an opening topic over a glass of wine at a BBQ.... ‘hi my name is Bob and I’m still married but dating that chick over there 🤷🏻♀️
If it’s your inner circle/family/friends etc would they care if it’s clear it’s not a case of an affair or extra bit on the side.
Wouldn’t they be just glad you’ve found someone that makes you happy not focus on marital status?
Divorce isn’t about the piece of paper, it’s more about closure and finality.
When someone hasn’t taken the steps to finish old business, your family may be worried he hasn’t fully let go/accepted the break up, or that they might get back together.
Divorced or not divorced, it has no bearing on your life, but it does symbolise the person is moving on and has fully accepted the demise of their marriage.
A bit strange how anyone would know really, it's basically just a technicality, a bit of paperwork. Nobody needs to know. I would have no idea who is divorced or not of seperated people I know, unless they discuss it it's nobodies business.