I’m finding it impossible to connect with my husband on a sexual basis I work shift work he works days and 6 days a week at the moment and we have 4 kids at home between my hours his hours and managing the kids we don’t get any time together the last time we had sex was two weeks ago we would be lucky to have sex once a month and I’m over it tonight I showered and put on some lingerie and sent him a photo and he came to bed 30 mins later saying the kids were still awake I asked him to come to bed and he went back out into the lounge room I’m just going to get myself off because I’m going to dry up like an old prune I just don’t know what to do anymore we are tired in our fields of work but I’m horny and I need it I also found one of my Xmas presents lingerie he bought me I have so much of it and he bought himself a firemen’s outfit for me to enjoy well if we don’t have sex I don’t see the point any ideas to get back on track? Rant over going on online for some toys if I can’t get the real thing
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Sweetheart, my ex and I used to have sex on average, every 6 weeks . Every One and a half months! For a full decade out of 14 yrs. I came to find out he was on meth as for some ppl drugs do affect their sex life. I'm not saying this is in your case, but something is going on in his own world where it's become an issue. It could be as simple as him genuinely being tired. Try to get it out of him as it could be a million different reasons.
My husband and I also work shift work and with kids still up it makes having sex rather uncomfortable cause they usually call out or need something! Or even open your door! I hate doing it when kids are awake but sometimes it can’t be avoided.
If you’re feeling kinky perhaps assist him in putting the kids to bed and depending on their ages you can ask them to not go in your room as you’re having a “talk” and need some time alone together.
I grabbed my husband the other day escorted him into our en-suite and gave him oral 5 minutes before he was due to leave for work! Our toilet is in there and no one interrupts when the door is closed! It definitely put him in the mood to do things like that again and we had a house full of people! Lol
When you’re shift workers you’ve got to make any time together count! Take the reins, send him pics of you pleasuring yourself when he’s at work, when you’re at home and make time for each other otherwise your closeness will suffer and you’ll both feel lonely emotionally and sexually.
You don’t say how old your kids are. We have 4 kids and have sex every day 1-2 times. First thing in the morning with the morning glory and either a lunch time quickly when our youngest is napping or at night once the kids go to bed. They’re aged between 14 and 1. They are all in bed by 9pm and our oldest gets an 11pm bedtime on holidays but spends most of his time in his room with a set of head phones on. Is there something wrong with his penis?his libido? Is he on Anti depressants or other drugs? Is he a porn addict? If my OH and I stopped having sex on the regular I’d be investigating it. I don’t know what you’re going through but there has to be a reason right?