Im 28 and have two beautiful kids 9 & 7. My husband of 1 year ( together since we were 15 ) is an incredibly helpful supportive man. He is a wonder father and treats me beautifully. I love my family deeply, but i struggle to show it. I dont like hugging my children or husband, I dont kiss my kids goodnight unless my husband is around ( i feel like I copy him when he shows affection because im uncomfortable with doing it ) I dont like the kids or husband touching me/sitting on me while watching tv ect. I'm not really sure what I'm asking, I never use to be like this. But I know it's effecting my relationship with my children and my husband. This was never an issue when the children were small, i would constantly hold them, spend hours holding them while they were asleep, playing ect.
How do i fix this? I dont want my children feeling like I dont love them because I won't hug them.
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I struggle with hugging, showing affection too. I wasn't raised with any touch, so I don't really know how to do it. I think copying your husband is a great start. Also some counseling to identify your barriers/triggers would help. You may also have some sort of sensory disorder - it sounds weird, but the 'texture' of touch can be very uncomfortable for some people.