I just found out from my sister in law that my husband has been bragging to other members of his family about drugging my drinks. What do I do? He is quite emotionally abusive as well. Can anything be done legally or is it just one word against another?
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Contact a DV organisation as soon as safe to do so and make your plan to leave ASAP.
I don’t know if the police will do anything. Will your SIL back you up with police.
In the mean time don’t accept any drinks from him. Make your own.
Have you had your drinks spiked? Surely you would know if you have had some strange nights of passing out after only a few drinks? Why would he brag about it? Sure it's not some weird joke? I think you need to give a bit more info rather than just he said she said.
Spiking coffee/tea with antidepressants not alcoholic drinks. How would it be a joke?
She did give more info. The very next line says he's also quite emotionally abusive towards her.
She may not be sure, and yeah it could be his kind of anxiety-inducing, mind-fuck, power-play, abusive 'weird joke'. Still wouldn't be ok in any way.
Happy pills in your coffee! That actually is a joke that is said about grumpy morning people. I have heard it plenty of times. Go to the doctor and ask for a blood test to see if it's in your system. Set up
a camera at the kitchen bench. I think you need actual proof before you accuse someone of something so serious. The emotional abuse is a separate issue altogether.
The fact he bragged about it to others???
All I'm saying is, if the only proof op has is her SIL's version of what he said, then maybe she needs more proof! Some people hear things completely wrong or take jokes seriously! Where have you all been living to have not experienced this, didn't you all play Chinese whispers at school 😂💁🏻
Do you have anti depressants in the house? Start counting them?
This advice is ridiculous. If hearing it is enough for you to worry or question, that is not normal. listen to your gut.
My brother just told me he is going to blow his insurance company up, should I believe this outrageous claim and call police without even questioning him further or looking for just a bit of proof? Use your brain ladies.
OP, if this is true, you need proof to be able to have him charged. Going by just the information you have given here, if that's all you have, it's not enough. Get proof then have him charged.
My advice was get proof. How was that ridiculous? If she walked into a police station right now and said, "my SIL heard my husband say he has been putting antidepressants in my coffee", what do you think they will do? Ask the same questions I have including go to the doctor for proof? Pretty sure my advice is good actually.
You can leave. Go to a women's centre and speak about moves you can make, charges you can file, it might be best to have him on record but my instinct is to firstly put your efforts into being out and rid of him.