So through out our relationship I have had women comment on how attractive my husband is and how I'm lucky to have such a good looking bloke. I have had work colleagues comment when he has come in to see me and even had one woman hit on him right in front of me and asked him to buy her a drink at a function we were at. I was slightly pissed off that she would have the balls to do that but I brushed it off quickly.
Now I have found msgs between 2 women, one sent the other a photo of him. When the second woman responded 'whos that!?! Is he single?" When told no he was married she replied, "oh well that's one I'll keep for the spank bank".
Now I don't know if I should feel proud that I have nabbed myself a good looking guy or upset that this woman is talking about masterbating to pics of my hubby. I know she may have been kidding around but I still find it a upsetting. I'm not at all threatened by it just... Kinda discusted I guess.
How would you feel in this situation.
Should I feel proud or discusted.
Should I feel proud or discusted.
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Kinda curious how you found the messages between one friend to another, that one would assume you were never intended to see, but anyhoo...
If I was out somewhere with my hubby and some chick started flagrantly trying to crack onto him while I was right there, I'd actually feel pity and embarrassment because of her shamelessness and lack of self respect. I mean, that's pretty pathetic behaviour!
If people tell me my hubby is good looking with a sweeping "gee, you've got yourself a looker" I'm just like "yeah, I know hehe" because he is!
There's a line though, I would be a bit pissed off if people took it too far or went on about it, made dirty jokes about him etc.
I'm all for appreciating someone's good looks but not blatant objectifying (I feel like sending pictures of a person alluding to them being masturbatory material definitely falls under that category).
I found the msgs because the first friend actually sent screen shots of the convo to my husband thinking it was funny.
Ew. That's a bit gross actually!
Roles reversed and it'd have a bit of a sexual harrasment vibe.
How does your hubby feel about all this?
Does he enjoy the attention or does it make him uncomfortable?
I guess the way he behaves and reacts to all this would be the only thing I'd really be concerned about.
He shrugs it off most times. He just replied with " well that's going to make things awkward if I ever meet her"
Or when the lady asked for a drink he just said " you know where the bar is, u can get one" which was pretty funny.
I agree that's gross. I'd be pissed at them both.
Does he do some kind of job where he's posing?? Firefighter calendar, bodybuilding, etc? In that case that's what in a way what those photos are sent out for. Perving on a snap or real life man/husband is grubby. Telling him is trifling- theyre 'joking' not joking.
No he isn't a pin up guy lol the photo that was taken was him in a suit at a wedding. He wasn't even looking at the camera in the pic.
Weird that they’d even send it to your husband. I don’t get it.? He doesn’t know one of them and why does the other one feel so comfortable sending that to a married man. Sounds odd.
I would just think it was sad they are so immature. Are they 13?
Pity them. They have no respect and pretty shitty morals to ask a taken man for a drink.
But it doesnt sound like your husband would EVER go there so lol on them. Your husband is hot by the sounds of it. Lol
Women talk about my husband this way. Doesn't bother me. I think it's just their way of saying he's attractive rather than being literal. Not my usual vocab but each to their own. Edited to say im neither proud or disgusted...It's a bit of a non issue.
Wow both those woman are very immature and vulgar. I hope hubby tells them that he has shown his wife so they feel super uncomfortable.
Next time they are around plant big kisses on him and show them how in love you are. They sound like desperate housewives. Atleast your husband is smart enough to not be involved or get into anything with them and passes it off. Why did they send him a snap shot of the msg.? Do they msg him.?