Hi ladies
I just wanted some opinions. If you had a gut feeling about your partner cheating and you went on his phone even though you know it’s wrong and you found a contact that he’s named . (Dot) and you ring it and a female answers would you think it’s suspicious?
A bit of a backstory. My partner has been accusing me of cheating for years now and I am getting tired of having to justify myself to him on a daily basis. I am literally just a stay at home mum that cooks and cleans and the only time I go out is on a Monday to get groceries and that’s it. I have no social life. I have one friend that lives hours away. I’ve never partied. I don’t intend to and yet he still accuses me and calls me a slut constantly. I even found a recorder under our bed for when he’s at work he records me incase I have someone there. It’s getting ridiculous. He has access to all of my messages and social media I have nothing to hide. Ever! Today I thought about it and thought maybe if he’s accusing me then he’s the one doing something wrong? We live together but he is literally never home and he is always broke. For instance he got paid today quite a good pay to and he doesn’t have a cent left. He has no bills! Doesn’t pay rent so I have no idea where any of his money goes. So I looked on his phone and found this number. I called it but was to chicken to ask who it may be and now I am sitting here wondering who she is and why her “name” is just a dot. Would you be suspicious or am I just going crazy?
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He's absolutely cheating , the right mutt . Follow your gut . Hes a dog .
I mean, yeah, he's probably shagging anything with a pulse but it almost doesn't matter. Everything you mentioned in your back story is so far from acceptable!
He doesn't contribute financially.
He calls you a slut and accuses you of cheating constantly.
He's hiding recording devices.
He has control over your messages and SM accounts.
It's controlling, invasive and in my opinion, emotionally abusive.
You're basically already doing it alone, imagine how much easier your life would be without having to deal with this shit!
Do yourself a favour though, go and get a sexual health check up!
I don’t know, but it’s obvious you are living in an abusive, toxic situation and it’s time to make plans to get yourself out of there.
Worrying about her and his phone is actually the least of it. Maybe this is what it'll take for you to realise and act. This is all so far gone, there's nothing to argue over, figure out, clear up, just be done with it all. You don't deserve this. And you'll be so much better off without it.
Cheating or not he’s an abusive, controlling arsehole.
How could you stay with a man that has no trust in you and treats you that way.
If it makes you feel better to leave, I would say there’s a 99 percent chance he’s a cheater.
You deserve better lovely, get out, you’re already broken, you’ll already accepting what no one else would.
Go be free, you will feel so much better .
I was actually laughing not at you but at the hind neck of him !! He is a looser oh get put and as far away as possible from him poor you living like that ! He is cheating and is so guilt ridden is taking it out on you ahhhh if you only believe what is out there after you leave you would be so inspired to go there is a life of self love and care happiness and contentment, a far cry from the misery he is putting you through good luck momma get strong and get the hell out of there
Apparently cheaters quite often will accuse their partners of it. Even if he isn't, he is a controlling person, possibly a narcissist?
Yes because they see the relationship as phony, they don't love you or the relationship, and they are convinced you see it and feel the same but won't say it. So they cheat, or if they don't it's got nothing to do with you, you're irrelevant, but when they do they convince themself that you do it to them too.
So every time you accept him accusing you and stay, youre confirming in his head that you are and you won't admit it, that's why you put up with being told it.
It's sad because when you see him for real, you'll see all of him, and all of these pieces will suddenly make sense and you'll realise you've wasted so much while dealing with this. You'll never win it.
Go with your gut. He is definitely cheating. I had a similar situation but it was a male name saved but when I read the messages it was definitely a female who he had been seeing. I wish you the best in a crappy situation.
Try googling or Facebook the number, it may bring up results.
As for how he treats you , it's not okay! You deserve better then this. Xo
He is almost certainly cheating on you and definitely abusing you. Why doesn’t he pay rent? Why do you have no life outside the house? Why do you believe it’s acceptable to be called a slut and recorded in your own home? First thing to do - book counselling and see your self worth.. Then put you kids first and kick his arse out. His behaviour is abuse and your kids will either disrespect you for putting up with it and either turn out just like him (sons) or marry someone just like him (daughters). This is NOT NORMAL and NOT OK. Look at all the comments, we’re all saying the same thing. This is abuse and you need to GET OUT