Moving on

Hi. Can you please post.

Ive been separated from my husband for 3 months now but emotionally for a long time.

Back story is he was angry and destructive, spoke to us like crap. A heavy drinker and addicted to weed. He destroyed my house and all confidence i had in myself, he liked to blame me and take shit out on me and ended up becoming violant and throwing stuff at me on a regular basis. I was with him 10 years and have beautiful children with him. He was my first and only ive ever been with.

Now i know its only been 3 months but i was getting myself out there and i have been chatting to a really nice sweet guy. He is wanting to meet but i worry about my xhusband taking it badly if he finds out. I only love him in the way a mother loves the father of her children but i still care and worry and for some reason i dont want to hurt him even though he didn’t care much about hurting me. Do you think its ok to meet someone and take it slow? I wasn’t searching or looking for anything but he just came along.