My son who is 8 years old has always had some sort of anger issue, nothing to bad until the last six months. He is well behaved at school, at his Dad, grandparents and anyone else
except for me :( I mean he has his moments with them but nothing like with me. He is always tormenting, hitting and swearing at his brothers, myself and my husband. They other day he told my husband he was going to stab him, he says he can’t control himself when he gets angry. I don’t know if he has a real issue or what! My ex and I have 50/50 so he is with me 1 week dad the next, at my house is myself, my husband
And our 5 boys. if he was to do and say the things at his Dads house his Dad would absolutely flog him. Where as I don’t really smack unless it’s the last resort and even then it doesn’t matter to him. My husband thinks he has ADHD, but my brothers had that and they were just plain naughty all the time anywhere for anybody. Does anyone have any suggestions? And how do I go about getting him assessed? Do I just start with the gp and tell him my concerns?
8 year old Son with Anger Issues!
8 year old Son with Anger Issues!
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My son is and was like this. He’s 15 now and over 6 foot and just the other day told me to ‘f**k off and go f***ing kill myself’ I mean I was impressed, he didn’t tell me he was going to get a knife to stab me in the heart and watch me bleed to death and die (progress).
Start at the GP get a referral to both a psychologist and a Peadiatrian. Psychology to help him with his emotions and see if their is any underlying issues which bring about the anger and a paediatrician to see if he’s got mental health issues or behaviour issues or both.
My son has ADHD, oppositional defiance disorder, conduct disorder, depression, anxiety and Aspergers. But I still love him and his lame ass attempts to verbally kill me x
Good luck
You said he doesn't behave like this for his father because his father is strict! You need to up your discipline and stick to it. Take favourite items away if he misbehaves, send him to his room, etc. His behaviour needs to be happening in more then one place for a behavioural assessment to be considered.
That’s not necessarily true. A lot of kids (say with ASD) will ONLY play up with one parent and are perfect for everyone else. They hold their emotions in and then let shit fly at home. Not saying this child is ASD but simply saying that a behaviour assessment can be done with behaviour occurring only in one place. Just might make it a wee bit harder to get a true and correct diagnosis.
I am very strict and consistent with my discipline.. I just don’t hit him like his father. I take away his favourite things he couldn’t care less, he hasn’t had his iPad for about 5 weeks, no YouTube nothing, he loves going to his room so tried sitting him in a corner it doesn’t bother him.
Is it attention seeking? 5 boys in a household is pretty busy! Maybe less people at Dads more calm.
Yes that’s what I’m thinking. As there is only him and my other son at his dads.
Or he’s just shit scared of being beaten? 😏
Start writing down his behaviours, and I mean all things that he says n does, and what preceded any meltdowns. Is it worse when he returns from dads, or after a full day at school? How is he around lots of people, noise, busyness etc?
Get a referral to paediatrician
My son is like this and it’s emotional dysregulation from ADHD/ODD. ADHD medication helps enormously! Lots of good info on ADDitude website.
I'm also going through this with 7 year old son. I firmly believe after doing a lot of research he has ODD. I'm in the process of getting him to a Dr to start the diagnosis process. His father (whom I left almost 2 years ago) tells me it's my own fault because I dont smack them, but after leaving him for his violence I dont feel it's the right action to take. That and my 3 other children are nothing like that either. My 7 yr old is almost unrecognizable when he is on a mood, he sometimes has no memory of what he has said or done and I know in my heart he doesn't mean what he says but God it hurts :( chin up Mumma, you'll get through this too x