My husband really enjoys it for himself. He wants me to participate in “pegging” or he will use a dildo on himself. I am not a comfortable in participating in these activities and I often wonder if he is gay or will look outside our marriage to partake in these activities as its not something I can do for him. He swears to me he is not and just likes the feeling. Our sex life is great, one of his favorite things is oral sex on me. Hubby and I have been together for 8 years, we were both young when we first met.
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Yes, straight men enjoy anal too. Just like some women enjoy it.
I’ve been with a few guys who love it.
Definitely not gay, there’s a g spot up there and plenty of men enjoy it. However if it’s a limit for you and you’re not comfortable just tell him so, he can like it but you’re not obligated to do something you’re not comfortable with it.
Not my husband but a close friends is into it, however he prefers it from a male so I guess is bi. He finds they know where to hit “the spot” unlike a woman. She lets him seek it elsewhere as she isn’t into it
It’s suss to me
I've watched quite a few sex shows/documentaries and this topic has been brought up a lot.
Yes, it is normal for SOME men to love anal play on themselves.
Their prostate is located up there, and is like their G spot. Can bring intense pleasure, just like a females G spot.
I highly doubt he's gay, because he's asking for YOU to do it, and he loves giving YOU oral. (Most gay men wouldn't want to lick a vagina).
You need to ask yourself WHY YOU feel uncomfortable? Is it just because you you're a bit homophobic? And only gay men should be allowed to enjoy anal play?
If so, try to get that out of your head, and embrace your husbands comfortability around you. Not many men are comfortable enough to bring this up with their partners, so he truly must love you.
If you can, just try some simple anal play with him. Whilst you're having vaginal intercourse with him, reach around to his backside and press on his anus (you don't need to stick a finger in, but the pressure on there can feel great.)
Then when you're more comfortable, maybe try inserting a small butt plug for him, then continue with your vaginal sex. After you're more comfortable with that, you could possibly start using it on him whilst giving head, etc.
But if you truly can not get comfortable with the idea, that 100% fine and you don't need to do anything you're not ok with.
But this is completely natural, so nothing to be ashamed of.
I wish my partner liked anal play. I'd love to strap one on and f*** him like a dog.
It’s completely normal for straight men to want their wife/partner to engage in pegging with them. It does not mean they are gay, it’s just where the male g spot is.
My husband suggested pegging, after a few months of anal play between.
I’ll admit I found it slightly weird to begin with, wearing a strap on, but it is very strangely a real turn on.
We went shopping for it together and got something we were both comfortable with. We don’t use it all the time, and we still enjoy sex, but it is very much a turn on for myself being the one in charge. And my husband loves it (and he is certainly not gay, nor would he go elsewhere for it.)
Yep completely normal.
You're quite lucky that he has opened up to you about what he likes.
My husband and I went through an extremely hard time because he was ashamed that he enjoyed that. He didn't want me to think of him as less of a man, because of what he was into. I obviously had no issues with it, so when he finally spoke with me about it, it was obviously a non issue.
Be happy that he is secure enough in his relationship and sexuality to talk to you about it.
My husband and I have done pretty much everything but not long ago we were pissy and I asked him did he want me to try anal on him, he’s never talked about it, but I saw it on some porn I was watching and thought he might enjoy it due to where the male g spot is, I also have gay male friends and have spoken to them about it before,
Anyway we started and we were a few minutes in, I was being really gentle and he was trying to work out if he liked it, but about 5 mins later he said it just wasn’t for him, he went soft and I was like no worries, some like it some don’t,🤷🏻♀️
I don’t think your husband is gay, especially since he wants you to do it,
And he’s not down at a local park in the public toilets trying to get some action from the gay blokes that frequent these places( gay mates told me this is quite normal)
I wouldn’t stress, maybe have a few wines and have a go?? If you don’t like doing it after that, express that to him and let him do it himself!!
Good luck x
It’s perfectly normal as long as you’re both consenting. If you’re not comfortable stimulating his prostate (or P spot) internally then would you consider doing it externally by applying pressure with your fingers to the area between his balls and anus? This way he gets the pleasure from you without the penetration. Again it’s all about what you’re comfortable with. It’s great that you have an open enough communication in your sex life that he feels comfortable enough to talk about it with you.
I've been in a relationship for 9 years and my partner was seeking anal penetration through female bdsm sex workers when he was married as he couldn't speak about it with his ex wife. He felt he could talk about it to me as i am quite open about my sexual experiences. We have regular play sessions where I use a strap on dildo or my fist. He is not gay but bi curious and quite passive sexually. He also self engages in anal when he feels the need to do it. It's normal and we need to stop stigmatising sex as gay or straight :-)
My ex loved it. He'd ask for a back massage and it would lead to anal play. We even had a toy specifically for his anal play time. It was kinda hot making him my bitch for a while.
Thank you first off.This is Awesome. Just got in a big fight over this with wifey. Always felt awkward about this.as a man. Just something I enjoy. The pressure being the focus. She didn’t know I secretly do this when I masterbate.she found out and she figured it was because I was drunk or high.. Whatever. She can’t get over it.It does kinda make you feel different when you get judged like that. Even growing up I often wondered about my sexual identity. Never really attracted to dudes. Kisses one is gross too. How do you ladies do it? l might be a little gender fluid but I definitely need a woman in this formula. Would have saved a lot of time and poor decision making if I would of had friends like you. But that is part of life’s adventures. “ No RAGRETS”
I mean come on. If he is out there getting man hammered with hard flesh yeah got some issues. But those issues are not about sex specifically. The issues are his and your safety number one and his dishonesty. So yeah I like toys. You do too ladies. No judgment but going too large on that might make it a little slower for that muscle to get back it’s tightness so to say. Wink Wink.Go smaller. Hey your choice. Point beings hiding my toys. Having to throw them away. Buying new ones. So what do I use when I can’t keep a “clean” toy in the house? Improvise. Not good and not Sanitary.
I love women. I love sex. I love my wife. It doesn’t have to Be your thing. I wasn’t into giving it to women at first either. And if you are not cool with it that’s fine as well. Just don’t come at me like that! I get it. It’s not the cleanest thing. But it can be. IT IS HARD IN A MARRIAGE WHEN YOU DONT HAVE THE SPACE TO BE YOURSELF. I’m not even saying to be accepting. Just give me space. With no space and no room to grow then it’s time to go. Not everything has to end in a fight or a divorce. Have a little understanding and put a little love in your heart. It’s just sex. What we do together is what’s matters.Thanks Ladies and Gents. Oh and if your not good with the humor or criticism is not a dildo learn how to take it.
I'm a male and identify as completely straight but I LOVE anal play. If done correctly, it is absolutely AMAZING!!!
Hello, first time poster here. But thought I could offer some useful information… for context, I am a transgender woman (I was born as male then in my teens/20s transitioned to a female gender identity) I live my life as any other woman would and have no traditionally “masculine” features about myself, aside from… well, a penis.
To your question, I work as an escort full-time traveling the country and seeing clients, and am paid exuberantly well for my age group ($150,000 after taxes - I’m 24). My clients are almost exclusively: male, 37-55 years old, married or recently divorced, High-income individuals. They almost always are seeking my services out because they want to receive anal sex *FROM A FEMALE* but their wife either won’t or they’re fearful about possible judgement from her if they were to ask her to.
You’re very fortunate that your husband has been open and transparent about his sexual needs with you. And if you’re willing and open to exploring it WITH him I think you should. Because in my experience, (as described above: never married, just as an escort) he will seek out that fulfillment elsewhere at some point… any of us would it’s human nature and the 21st century.
Again, don’t do things you’re comfortable doing! But keep that line of judgement free communication as open as possible and keep your mind open to adapting and growing as your marriage grows. You were married young so you both have to constantly work together to relearn your partner and hopefully love the person they’ve become year after year.
He loves you. He’s happy with you. He wants to share things with you he’d never share with anyone else. You’re a lucky woman. I wish the two of you the best in your bedroom and your marriage. Just have fun!
RELAX, be thankful he is asking you. No worries, try to think of it as foreplay or massaging. Try helping him out you will used to it. He wount stray if you help