I just want to end it. I am so tired. My partner has borderline personality disorder and is just a tyrant. I feel so entangled and trapped emotionally. We have two children together and although he has moved out he just keeps coming back. He will be nice and caring and then just snap. I can see no way forward
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I’m sorry you are going through this. I promise things can get better and your children need you!
I hope you have some mental health support for yourself.
I’d also be getting in touch with a DV support agency and I’d consider moving, and not telling him your address. Could you stay with friends, or family for awhile? That could help create a barrier between him and you for awhile.
Have you tried calling the cops when he comes back and have you looked into restraining orders?
Please. Please seek help. Please call lifeline and tell them how you’re feeling. Please don’t concentrate on him. Concentrate on your children.
The chances that he will ever be different are slim. Mental health problems can make people toxic. It can make them abusive, irrational, and hurtful. And while BPD can go a long way toward explaining the behaviours, it doesn’t make them okay, and it doesn’t mean you have to accept them.
You can choose a different path for yourself. In your shoes, I did. I left someone with BPD to escape abuse. My advice is walk away. Make it clear he can’t come back. Good luck x