Hi Mums,
Weird question to post but I need any advise about good family lawyers for father's in QLD.
My brother has 3 children, he and their mother are separated. She resides in the house they built, they haven't done a financial settlement yet. He pays over the amount of child support per week, health and car insurances for her and the children on top of this. He is the father and ex husband that most would dream of.
She is not letting him have his time with their kids, he is terrified of her taking them from him and she's doing it. She abuses him in text, calls him pathetic and a shit father. He has never rocked the boat because of her. His babies never want for anything around him, they just want more time with their dad as the middle son has openly shared with myself, his dad, his mother, grandparents.
If you've read so far, thank you, I'm just really looking for a good law firm for him to speak with.
Thank you.
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He needs to firstly only pay child support and half the mortgage (if there is one). If the private health is still as a family he can take her off it and just have the kids. Whose car is it? If it's his car he is paying insurance for then I guess it gets a bit tricky, he would be a bit silly not to pay the insurance if it's his car. Also if it's his car he can claim some costs of the car as Cs, my ex did this to me. Then he really needs to start the ball rolling for mediation and getting a parenting plan drawn up and set in stone. The mediators will talk him through it. Search family mediation in your area, don't confuse it with lawyer mediators. Hopefully she just needs a bit of time, break ups are hard and emotions are high. If after a few months she is still being quite nasty then you and your parents can also apply for visitation, the more of you in these kids lives the better and hopefully avoid alienation. Best advice is for him to stay calm, don't retaliate and react in anger as this can be used against him if they end up in court. Pick the kids up and drop them off when he says he is going to and keep all communication about changes and things to do with the kids by text.
This can be such a struggle for men! Make sure you keep your eye on him! It’s going to cost a fortune not to mention the time the processes take.
Good suggestions above but just want to add that he should start now and even go back a little to the abusive messages and put them in a diary. Ask her the simple question of why she is not allowing him to see kids... let’s face it there isn’t really anything that makes it OK but as long as he has a history of shit excuses that doesn’t look good. And yep mediation is a good start but once it’s all agreed on have it put into a concent order so it is enforceable if she continues. Wish him all the best.