I’m just curious to see if there are many ladies out there who think that ‘bigger is better’ in regards to penises.
I hear this so much and there is lots of stigma surrounding penis size but, in my experience, bigger is definitely NOT better. My experiences are limited (only having a couple of partners) but my current partner’s penis is such a better size for me:
- I can confidently and comfortably pursue any position that we want.
- Sex doesn’t hurt during or after so we can have more and I actually WANT to have more!
- I enjoy oral sex so much more and feel like a bit of a pro deep-throating.
- I have orgasms during sex which I never had before.
- My cervix isn’t getting poked and prodded.
- I don’t have to use toys during sex to avoid pain (we only use toys now if we want to).
As I said before, I’m just curious to see what others think and don’t feel comfortable talking to my / our friends particularly because of the ‘bigger is better’ stigma and I’d hate to embarrass my hubby.
Disclaimer- My hubby is not ‘small’, just average I think. I am comparing him to my ex who I now know was huge!
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I definitely prefer around average (5-6 inches) too big is painful, my almost recent ex was around 4 inches and I still got off during sex I just had to be on top. Size isn’t everything 🤷🏼♀️
I have never liked bigger penises, I am really short though and have a short vagina I guess. My partner is probably 4 to 5 inches erect and he can make me orgasm vaginally. It's more to do with the size of both partners.
I’m not a fan of a bigger penis.
Size definitely isn’t the be all and end all.
Girl, yes!!
I'd 100% prefer an average sized one than a monster porn star cock 🙊
If my only choices were huge and smaller than average, I'd choose smaller. Pretty much for every reason you did!
Technique and enthusiasm makes for the best sex, not size!
YASSS!! 🙌🏼
I've never heard anyone say this HaHa
There's an optimal size, and there is definitely too big and there is unsatisfying sex no matter what.
I’ve had both ends of the spectrum, a penis the size of a pornstar and it was horrible, couldn’t enjoy it.
And a small penis, below average.
I prefer a bit bigger and I do think bigger is better, especially given now both me and my partner have gained weight so the small penis is a bit of an issue depending what position we are in. Honestly a lot of the time it just doesn’t hit the right spot unless he’s doing me from behind and when I’m on top it falls out or is hard to really grind on without having to practically do kegels. Not to mention it ruins my self esteem because I feel loose thanks to it (and it ruins his self esteem too).
My ex had a maaaaaassive penis and there was nothing fun about bleeding after sex everytime with him.. I always felt like I was tearing with each thrust.
My partner now is pretty average and its always been good sex.
The guy I lost my virginity to was TINY so that was a nice little introduction into sex... hahaha
Ive had bigger penises and smaller penises and average penises. Bigger is definitely not better (especially when they have no skill) but small isn’t great either especially when they’re too small and also have no idea how to use it. Honestly my partner is the perfect size. He does hit my cervix in certain positions but that’s due to my cervix and I guess the length of his member. But only in some positions. Long an fat, Long and skinny I’ve had both neither were exceptionally talented. But I’ve have rather short partners and they had other skills which were needed and i would never have gone back for seconds if they didn’t. But I’ve also had short and no skills and there’s no way I was going back for that. There’s a perfect size for everyone. My perfect size is between 6-7 inches and I’m defintely happy with it. But it is attached to my hubby.
So no it’s not the size that matters it’s the person it’s attached too!! If my partner was 5 inches long I’m sure my body would react the same way. Especially if he knew what he was doing.
My hubby's is different to anyone else's penis that I've ever known . It has a full bend in it , even more than the end of a banana. You can't thrust with a dick like that , it just does not work , so doggy is permanently out . We can only do him on top or me on top and the only way is to grind on it . And my God it Is fucking amazing!! I've had small penises in my past , large ones, long and skinny , and even ones with lots of girth . But my favorite by far is the boomerang shape of my hubby's. Afterall, our vaginas are bent in the same shape, so a penis that has that same bend is a much more natural fit and because of that the size doesn't matter , and my preference is void, as you are only rocking on it , not thrusting.
I absolutely agree. I’ve been with a spectrum of sizes and bigger usually equals burning ring of fire by the end.
My husband is average but fits perfectly - and I’m the same, best sex I’ve ever had.
Thicker is better then longer. But bent at the end is also really good. It's how they use it that's important. I had one guy who was so thin I just couldn't feel it but it was bent at then end so if he hit the right spot it was great.
I prefer larger personally. I think it really depends on the person. I know friends who prefer their partners average size penis over larger ones because they find larger ones hurt. I don't find them painful, but then I enjoy a bit of what others consider pain during sex so may be that has something to do with it. My hubby is 9 and 1/2 inches. Which makes me very happy. He's quite talented with what he's got, also with his hands and mouth. And he's the only person I've ever orgasmed with on penetration alone. I've had an ex who was 11 inches, and i was happy with that too, and then I've had too small which did nothing for me and average which was ok. I've also had larger with no skill and that was not fun at all, regardless of size.
All this said, I've never belittled anyone for their size, and I never would.
Sexual compatibility is about more than just size alone. And at the end of the day, compatibility and intimacy is what it's about.
Longer isn't better but I think for me girth matters more than length. I've seen and been with a spectrum of Willie's- from genuine micro penis to porn star- and honestly a little longer than average with some good girth and i'm happy. I don't necessarily think your shape and size determines what you prefer either. My bestie once dated a donkey dong kinda guy and nothing's been the same since! That was her pinnacle of dicks, the dick to out-dick all dicks and she's the tiniest human I know!
Ive met two different guys that literally barely a penis at all... couldn't even make it into the vagina let alone trying to do anything enjoyable with it! In that case, bigger is definitely better!
My ex's was pretty big , but we were big on "fucking" so it was really good .
My husbands is average and his is good too.
Bigger is better when they are small.... small is not good!