I found out about 2.5yrs ago my husband had been cheating throughout our marriage including a number of affairs. He only told me when I confronted him with pictures. We committed to working on things (for me it was about keeping my family together as we have two kids) and went to counselling etc. But things deteriorated again and it was mutual for him to move out. He has pretty much left town. We have kept civil etc and I was thinking of going to see him where he is and take our youngest with me for a week holiday which sounds so attractive right now...I need a break, I'm emotionally exhausted looking after everything. But it would mean leaving my eldest at home by himself (his choice and I trust him). I also since found out he has been on tinder and other dating/hookup sites and has even thought about contacting one of his affairs. Is he pulling my chain and should I just face that things are over and tell him to get stuffed? Or should I accept the airfares and go and enjoy the sun and beach? I'm so confused.
Should I go on holiday with my cheating husband even though we are separated?
Should I go on holiday with my cheating husband even though we are separated?
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Tell him to go jump! It won't be much of a holiday staying with a cheating ex husband!
Do it if you want to but what he does now is pretty much none of your business, so don't use any of that as a reason not to go. Out of interest how old is your eldest and why can't he go if you choose to?
It's over. Send the kids to him or to family and take a nice holiday for your self- with a friend or a new guy, but not him.
Fuck what a silly question to ask strangers to give you the answer for......The only Question is to be answered within yourself here and now is Do I continue to fantisise about being a happy family unit again for the rest of our lives and go on holiday to him and our Boy,put myself out there again for the sakes and sence of false hope and security or Hurt alittle more about it all now for the rest of happier with not doing it to yourself and your youngest son again for the sakes of happyness sooner forever after,....,You already know what's going to happen again by doing so will have your heart wanting something more only to be hurt and broken and leave his penis needs fuffiled yet again from you for now but when you are asleep besides him with the feeling's Love,hope and happiness as family again his going to either on the shitter pulling the next root he can get for the evening of your departure date and every single day after.....Old dogs don't wanna even try new nothing and the only thing left you can teach him is that there's no way of tricking the new and improved beautiful inside and out you....You are not a ball that is fetched and returned back slobbered on chewed up and abused later after being thrown away from the past and last time....🤷♂️🤷♂️Up to you
No way! You will come back heart broken and even more confused. Guys like this lack boundaries and so he will try and draw you back into a relationship and break your heart all over again.
The further away you can stay from him, the safer and better off you will be.
Take the airfares baby, book a hotel, drop the kid off with dad for some manly bonding and turn your phone off. Holiday come at me style. I'm assuming there's no agreement that you're going to reconcile and it's just an offer to get away...
Go on your holiday else where by yourself lol
If he wants to see his kids, he can arrange for the kids to have a holiday with him or come see them himself.
He moved away and again shows lack of responsibility and now your meant to go along for the ride no way , drop kid off and go away by yourself bout time he shipped up he has no boundaries what so ever and the fact that you got away and are even considering getting back with him as you were not clear is no just no you made the break leave it there let him man up for once and put his hook ups on hold so he can do some actual bonding with his child !
Send the kids to be with their dad, you have time out at home.
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Don’t go..!! You are only breaking your own heart. Let him go, you deserve better and keep
Telling yourself that..!! He has no respect for you.
No. He’ll no. Is it a ploy to report you to child services for leaving older child at home and get custody of him?
No. He’ll no. Is it a ploy to report you to child services for leaving older child at home and get custody of him? Confusing is a massive red flag you are dealing with a narcissist, narc sociopath.