My husband can be the sweetest guy and very thoughtful, but there’s two sides to him and he can be cruel. He says a lot that he doesn’t know why we are together, mainly when he’s not getting his way. We have a 2 year old together and I have an 8 year old son from a previous relationship. If we argue he takes off and leaves me with the kids, ignores my messages, gambles money from our savings account and won’t come home for hours. He says cruel things, tells me I’m bipolar if I get upset about something, calls me names, mocks me if I cry. If he goes out he tells me when he will be home, then just doesn’t come home for up to hours later. He went to lunch one day and didn’t come back until 11pm that night. The other week he actually told me he doesn’t know if he loves me and has been thinking of leaving me. He has since taken it back but I can’t help but think it’s the truth. He makes me feel inadequate because I only work part time and look after our son while he works full time. Tells me he will do what he wants when he wants. I’m at my wits end. Does this man even love me?
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Sounds very childish and a narcissist. He has issues with himself and that’s why he behaves the way he goes. Very toxic!
Classic narcissist! He makes you feel inadequate so you don’t question him or stand up for yourself! Call his bluff! Life’s too short!
Love isn't enough mate. C'mon, read it again and ask yourself if he respects you. You deserve better.
It doesn’t matter if he loves you or not. He is emotionally and verbally abusing you.
This is an incredibly toxic relationship. You will do much better without him in your life.
Some relationships just aren’t worth it.
He might "love" you in the only way men like this are capable of.
But he does not respect you.
He does not care about your feelings.
He's choosing to treat you like like you don't matter.
Love doesn't mean shit if you're dealing with all that. You deserve so much better!
I could have written this 8 months ago. I left. It was the best decision for my kids and myself.
Omg I feel like I am living this exact life! My partner is a gambling addict, when he loses all his/our money it's somehow my fault. Then breaks up with me and withdraws love if he doesn't get his own way or I dont instantly forgive him and move on. It's narcissistic behavior and it's gaslighting. I've been trying to get him to leave but he has no money to actually do it!