I know have abandonment issues, due to my mother passing away when I was 8. Until May my husband used to be kind, caring and affectionate with me and have time for me. Now I have worked out that if I’m lucky he might spend 10 hours a week around me. The other week it was one hour. I don’t know what to do.
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Hi IM, life is busy as adults. It’s unhealthy to even sit down and work out the hours he has spent on you, especially without context. Under what circumstances did he only spend 1 hour on you? Is he busy working? Did he have commitments that week?
I’d suggest speaking to a counsellor regarding your abandonment issues and getting yourself into the headspace of time apart is okay and healthy for relationships.
Thanks for the reply. I understand that everyone needs time out. It’s out of frustration that I worked out how much time he spends in the man cave. We have a business run from home and when he’s not working he’s in there playing games up to 100 hours a week.
Yes I have contemplated talking to a professional regarding my issues
So May isn’t that long ago and it’s hard to tell without some context. What has he been doing with his time?
I would feel really horrible giving advice on this to find out that it was due to sick/disabled parents etc
Have you tried telling him you miss him?
Thanks for the reply. Yes I know everyone needs time to themselves. What he does when he’s not working for our business, which might take 20 hours a week is spend the rest of the time playing online games. He might surface around 9-9:30 at night.
Yeah that’s not cool.
What does he say about the situation?