I'm in a relationship with a man I love, however I feel as though I'm raising another child.
I have children that aren't his. We don't do anything together, or as a family. I work, I clean, I cook, I pay the bills all on my own. He gives me money each fortnight but that's not even enough to cover 1 weeks rent. He doesn't contribute other than that amount. Not towards anything. Plus he earns more than me.
We haven't had sex in 3 months. So I basically feel like Im just here to look after him and keep a roof over his head.
We've had a few arguments about sex and he says if I don't ask, I don't get. But when I do initiate he just shuts me down so therefore I lose the confidence to initiate again plus I lose the confidence in myself.
He says he loves me but I feel like they're just words to him.
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You are right, they are just words to him.
Send him on his way. If he isn’t contributing in a healthy, positive way, what’s the point of him being there?
Boot it back out. Apparently he's forgotten what it costs to live in the real world.
Gross no thanks
He doesn't want a partnership, he wants Mama 2.0!!
His words say "I love you" but his actions say "I love what you can give me and I'm gonna take it all", we know actions speak much louder than words so pay attention.
You need this man child like you need a hole in the head...
Time for you to let him go! He should be paying st least half the rent as well as half of all other household expenses plus at least $100 min for food. You are right, you may as well have another child! I can’t get over him saying if you don’t ask for sec you don’t get! What sort of statement is that from someone who is supposed to love you! Not good for the kids to see someone treating you like a doormat either!
Do you think perhaps the relationship has run its course?
From what you have written, it seems that you already know what you want - he needs to go.