I’ve been seeing a guy for 6 weeks. The other night after sex he said “I love you” then quickly added “love your body”. I didn’t say anything but it was clearly I love you. I like this person but not in love, it’s only been 6 weeks! He often will say he hasn’t felt like this in years and can’t stop thinking about me. I’m thinking it was a slip of the tongue? What do you think?
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It's really depends . Before I married my husband he told me he loved me 4 weeks after meeting. We weren't even dating! Haha . I was so turned off and repulsed , I was even annoyed that he said it . I felt nothing even close to that . We worked together so I saw him every day but it was so uncomfortable when he said it . Even stranger was 3 months later I started to get the feels and fell madly in love . 5 years after that we got married and 15 years on we are still in love .
I still think it was cringy how he did it and these days we joke and laugh about that day , but at the time I was mortified that he said he loved me .
It sounds like it slipped out accidentally, he rectified it pretty quickly so i wouldn't bring it up (I mean, talk about awkward lol).
In saying that, some guys do tend to confuse/associate sex with love so keep that in mind.
Just make sure you only move as fast as you feel ready for amd things should be fine, you should really just be enjoying each others company and getting to know each other at this stage anyway!
If he's used to a long term relationship, it could just be habit to say it. I struggled to break the habit of saying it in certain situations when I broke up with long term boyfriends. He may also not have meant it as a he's in love with you. I tell lots of people I love them when they make me really happy. Or, perhaps he is falling. But it doesn't really matter if you aren't there yet. Honestly, I wouldn't really read much into it.
I got proposed to mid orgasm once. It ended the relationship because it was a long term relationship and he didn’t want to marry me. It was this moment that hung over our heads that couldn’t be ignored. There were other issues but that’s was the moment.
In your case, as long as he isn’t being a stage 5 clinger, and isn’t trying to rush things in other ways I’d let it slide. Store it away as useful information, just in case there are red flags waving in other areas.
We said I love you at 6 weeks of dating. 14 years later we just got married in April. We have a 21 month old and a bub due in February. We are still on love today.
It could have been a slip or he could really be in love with you
My husband told me he loved me after 2 weeks. We have been married almost 35 years :)
Aww poor guy he probably meant it and felt embarrassed. My husband told me that after a few weeks, I said what ever, we have only just starting seeing each other..we are married with 3 kids now. He may just be in love with you and eventually you may feel the same way.
It’s a fairy tale thing to think that everyone falls in love at the same time. Some people know sooner then others how cemented their feelings are and they feel them intensely. Have a chat and express you do care for him, and enjoy your time together etc, but also explain to him what love means to you and what you involve in saying it to someone else. There is nothing wrong with him to say it so soon, embrace it and go with the flow.