Hi
Stay at home mum here to 2 beautiful boys 10 and 7 yr old.
I was wondering how many real friends do you have, you know the ones that you can call up and vent too or just say hey how about we grab coffee and they actually show up and don’t make excuses.
I have none I used to have a few then they all went back to work and now if I try to reach out and see if they want to catch up I usually get yeah school holidays coming up will be good or I will check the calendar and get back to you with a date....which never comes.
I am getting over having to make the first move, I am doubting my self and my abilities to hold on to friends. If I am being honest I miss them and feel lonely
But making mummy friends is hard....so do I just start a fresh or do I keep trying to hold onto my friends I have who used to be like sisters to me.
Mum friends.....help
Mum friends.....help
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I honestly have about 3, 2 with kids 1 without. And family that I can call on at any time thankfully.
With the ones who aren't "amazingly close" friends and are similar to what you are describing, I just be patient and understanding that it's hard to juggle kids, work, spending time with them etc.
I am a working mum (full time) and I am guilty of what you say because I want to spend some real quality time with my kids before heading back to work and it does mean sacrificing friendships sadly :(
None ☹️
Count me in with that number too.....none here.
Hold on but also keep trying. It's hard when you feel like you start fresh all the time but I've found they come and go, so gold onto them but always stay open and trying to find the ones that become close ones.
A few years ago I had none.
Then I made 3 close friends over a year or so, and they each drifted away. This past 2 years I've realised I have one from back then who has become just consistent - always there and I can call her for anything. And I've made 3 more close ones, plus kids friends parents, plus acquaintances from playgroups or school mums or hobbies. So I'd say I have 4 now, it's been a lot of hard work.
Honestly 2...
And they had kids at different times and so the age gap between kids means we don’t mingle at sports etc..
At sports I have also found it tough. It’s hard to even get a smile out of some people. So I have completely given up.
None at all, I am 27. Before my twins (3 months old) I had a few mum friends I caught up with regularly, when I was pregnant with my twins that all stopped. No one messages me and I stopped messaging them as I found it was always myself
So I have no family and no friends and my partner works ALOT so it’s just me and my 3 kids.. it gets lonely but at the moment I barely even have time to leave the house to even go to a playgroup to meet anyone.
I have 1 and she doesn't have kids.
I have an internet bestie, other wise no other friends. Lol