Child support help !!!! My partners ex wife has handed their children to her mother ( Nanna) to raise and left to live at the top of Australia. What happens with child support ? He has notified child support that the children are no longer in her care and reside in another town 12hours away . She has told child support she still has them . This is $800 a month ! C/S have told him he has to prove that there living somewhere else ie school records etc ...has anyone else had this happen ?
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Yes, my husbands ex doesn’t have their kids (we don’t actually know who does) but because we can’t prove it and she lies we still have to pay her $230 a week leaving ourselves with little to no food each week. Good luck
Instead of worrying about the mother, why not worry about the kids and who’s caring for Them?
They are with family, they are safe. We have been worrying for 5 years actually but every time we got close to finding out where they were living they would move again
Are you not able to apply for a recovery order to have them found and placed in your care? Seek legal advice on this I’m sad that you and your partner don’t know where the kids are and are worried.
That is so much easier said than done unfortunately. It’s sad, we having exhausted all avenues. We have called to have welfare checks done and have been told that the children are just “on holidays” with said family members but because she has rooms set up for them at her house we can’t prove that she doesn’t have them. We also have no valid reason to assume that the children are in any danger. She has applied for legal aid so we can’t use it and we just don’t have the money to hire a lawyer. With cs plus or living expenses we struggle most weeks let alone the cost of court. It’s heart breaking to say the least.
My brother came into my care when he was still a kid.
That meant my father was no longer obliged to pay child support at all, my mum was no longer entitled to it obviously and my dad refused to make child support payments to me because it wasn't required by CSA.
Your partner needs to seek advice from CSA but he should still be supporting those kids regardless whose care they're in, so ot really just needs to be ascertained that they're not with their mother so that payments can be made to whoever is now raising his children.
He needs to prove who they live with. As the parent he is entitled to know what school the kids are in etc.
I’d personally speak to a community legal service (it’s free) to get some general advice about the situation.
If he isn’t prepared to take custody he will need to pay child support to who ever has custody. If he can contact the grandmother to ask if she would like to receive the payments, grandma might assist his case.
If they won’t communicate if initiate family mediation and see if it can get sorted that way.
Does he have any physical custody or contact with his children?
Nanna should get child support!
No she shouldn’t, if the mother doesn’t want to or can’t look after them then they should be with their father not another family member
Different commenter, the OP cares about the money, she hasnt written in asking how to get custody of the kids. They clearly don’t want them, if they did, that’s where her concern would be.
I read it as the NaN as in Their father’s mother. No indication in this post dad or step mum want custody. Just not to pay the mother
Edit I just re read it - was bio mum - mum sorry
You seem more worried about child support than the fact they have just been dumped. Why isn't your husband caring for them? And grandparents can still claim child support from both parents.
If she is receiving a payment from Centrelink call the fraud line and report her. If she is claiming payments and child support for children that she doesn’t have in her care then that is fraud and she can be charged. How did you find out that she had left the kids with their nana and moved?
So let’s worry about the money and not the fact that kids have been abandoned by their mother.
What is wrong with these second wives?
Do you not have any empathy for your husbands other kids?
Nana should get child support, she sounds like the only stable figure in their lives.
Hahahaha, women out their hiding and dumping their kids because they either can’t be bothered looking after them or are just spiteful Cunts but it’s the seconds wives that are the problem. You are an actual joke. Not all fathers are the bad guy and not all mothers have their child’s best interests at heart. Most of time time when a man leaves his wife (for what ever reason) she turns in a fuckhead and plays games, why? Because they can, the law is always on the mothers side. It’s women like you that turn kids against step mothers and new siblings. Just because a relationship doesn’t work out doesn’t mean neither of you can move on, get remarried or have more kids. Men don’t leave a marriage because they don’t want their kids, it’s because most of the time the wife has turned in to a vile venom spitting sad saggy bitch. THEN use their kids as weapons. But please keep going on about how the father is always the one in the wrong
The mother is clearly an idiot, I agree, she has abandoned her kids.
But in comes second wife, asking how to get out of paying for said kids.
Why not call nana directly, discuss what’s going on with custody, can she handle the kids?
Could they work out a custody arrangement between them?
Work out who pays what for kids?
See if nana is struggling.
That’s what people who put the kids welfare over money do.
I would say bio mum has been an unstable mother for a while, she clearly has issues.
Father probably should have got custody a long time ago, why didn’t he take any action?
Makes me so angry, question shouldn’t be child support dilemma, should have been child custody dilemma.
Poor kids, nanas the only one who will step up and care for them.
If they weren’t paying child support to a person that doesn’t have children to actually support them they would have that money to put towards a custody case
If nana has kids, why don’t they approach her, not everything has to end in a court case.
Nana might be open to sharing custody, it might be too much for her to take on.
I’ve been coparenting with my ex for years, custody arrangements have changed many times and we’ve never seen the inside of a court room.
Nana may be easier to deal with than the ex, who clearly has other priorities, other than her kids.
The sad thing is, all this OPs concern is money.
Ima single mum and I am sitting here putting myself in bio dads shoes.
If my ex had full custody, abandoned the kids and left them with his mum, I would be very concerned for them.
I would be going around to nanas house and taking them back.
The last thing on my mind would be cs!!
What kind of father is this?
Isn’t he worried for his kids?
Why does his wife only care about the money?
Am I missing something?
Wow. To the first reply, you do absolutely nothing to help the stigma attached to being a stepmother. What a hate filled individual you sound like.
Did you ever stop to think that maybe they want to prove she doesn’t have the kids anymore and to stop payments to her so they could then pay the nanny and possibly sort out that they get the kids from her but want to give her support money in the mean time? But let’s go right ahead and be judgemental know it alls and take a did at the step mother because that’s easier then laying the blame at mothers feet who it rightfully should be at considering in the post you can see that the mother is still claiming to CSA that she still has them. Good work idiot.
Honestly, there are a million what if scenarios that could paint her as a saint.
But mate, you have to read what you’ve been given and clearly her only concern is $$$.
She didn’t ask, how to stop cs until we get custody, how to switch cs from mum to nana, how to ensure nana gets cs.
I also think if your scenario was correct, there would be an “edited to add”, as she would happily set us straight about being concerned about kids living arrangements.
Her silence is deafening.
The mother might have left for a temporary contract to make some money, there’s a lot of scenarios that could be played out on that side.
I love how people think $800 is a lot to pay in child support a month! ESP when we are talking kid+s
Ffs all of you on your high horses. For you you know they have already filed for custody and just want to know how to stop having to pay the child support in the meantime? Just stop paying the child support.
No you don't just stop paying child support unti the kids are in your care. You pay it to the grandmother.
Wow, look at all the bitchy posts. For all anyone of know they could be in the process of getting custody of the kids, or tried getting custody of the kids. Perhaps a simple read to see that the op has actually already replied and stated what was going on in regards to the kids. But wow lets all be judgemental and put a step mother down for trying to help her partner with getting information, that may just help them in having the money to fight the custody of the kids. Gee some people need to get off their high horses before they go typing bullshit on here
It wasn't her that replied it was another poster