Is it normal for there to be conflict in the home every single day? It could between different household members, for different reasons, it can be minor or major blow ups but I am exhausted from dealing with it every day. I have days at home, activity days, splitting kids to go for play dates, having kids over for play dates, sport, spend 1:1 time with each child etc but nothing eases the constant battle. The kids have routine, rules and boundaries. Both parents work full time. 3 school age children, blended family. Is this normal life? Or is there something wrong with my beautiful family?
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That’s every little information and you don’t mention ages. Is the conflict between kids, adults or both?
It might be, it might not be.
Even if it’s ‘normal’ if it’s making your life not as enjoyable as you like it is worth working on and trying to change it.
No that's not ok. With adults, they can do better. With kids it depends on age. Kids tantrum and kids bicker but if they're school age they can go in their room for timeout or just tell them if they fight they can go there all night as it's not ok.
There's nothing wrong, just may need to be a bit stricter with not allowing it to carry on, or more relaxed in understanding some tantrums and stress happens with kids BUT it's not a big problem, handle it and move on. I think you'll know which category they belong in.
My kids are 2 years apart and have such a close bond that they could be twins. But they still niggle at each other a lot. Especially through the school holidays. Then add in a partner who has SPS and anxiety and he sets the kids off and I have to constantly step in. I’m extremely close with my kids but I do find with their ADHD I’m constantly needing to be on top of them (even with routine and systems). So, yes, it does feel like that in my household, but again not sure if it’s “normal”..
Conflict between adults shouldn't be every day. Occasionally is okay.
Teens and children are probably normal to bicker everyday. At least mg very young kids who are 2 years apart do fight most days.
I just think it really depends.
My in-laws still have their adult daughter's at home And they all fight constantly, every day... all the time... I don't know how they accept it. Because to me, that's not normal and not okay.