Need some advice
I have this friend who constantly talks bout herself and everything going on with her life and it's all we talk bout her health issues her back hurts it's cold
And never once talks bout me or things in my life not that I can but I cant vent to her bout my issues cos everything is about her
How would anyone handle this would u day something ur just let things go I'm over feeling like a punching bag
I had a cancer scare a couple of weeks ago and wen I told she held me for like a sec then changed the subject onto her and her boyfriend how do any one gone through this handled this wen ever I needed her she has been convinantly sick or had to work and I dont have any time to arrange for other support
Help mummas !!!
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So I'm going to say get rid of her!! Sje ain't there for the hatf times .. I call these good times mates if even that! Cut the cord and let her go! Guesses are she is a scorpio and just full of it! She is not a friend.. friend gets cancer your crying with her ! Your feeling her pain as If it's her she is a selfer she will hurt you eventually and make it out like it's your fault leave her be and take some time for you
You had a scare hold your partner and kids and family close friends can be cruel and disgard you at the worst times shows who they are.... you have you you have your kids if ya have them count your blessings.. wanting other people to give a shit is a waste of time from my experience they only care when it makes them feel better about their life thats a a fact for the key kard warriors
Horrible people aren’t star sign specific! 😂
Haha my thoughts too ! Who the fuck takes star signs as legit ?
Oh ouch, I’m a Scorpio and my friends feelings are my priority. I’d never be this kind of friend!!
Random that star signs even play a factor into friendship abilities 🤷🏻♀️
I wouldn’t take advice off of anybody that uses people’s star signs as personality indicators 😂
I’m a Scorpio. If we’re supposed to be self absorbed like this woman I’m thinking maybe I’m proof that it’s all a load of hocum. I’d rather listen to others than talk about myself. Lol.
You had a cancer 'scare' . So since it's not cancer , she probably felt like this was no longer an issue as it's not cancer and the discussion was done . Some people have more issues in their lives than others and maybe hers is more like that than yours. Other than your 'scare' you haven't mentioned what else she fobs off . Your life seems more organised than hers and she probably sees that. I bet she looks up to you as you are naturally a stronger person .
You're an idiot. She doesn't say if she knew it was just a scare at the time of telling her but she does go on to say she changed the subject to her boyfriend problems! So do you really think someone thinking they have cancer and all the thoughts and fears that would fill your head at that time is something she shouldn't be sharing with her friend? That her friends bf petty problems is more important? Listen to yourself mate.
This was said in context from the friends warped point of you, not from mine or the posters . Almost like a dig at her so called friend for thinking her 'scare' was insignificant to her. Right over your head then .
Idiot .
I don't feel like this is something you usually bring up with a person.
If it were me in your position, I'd just keep her at an arms reach. And find myself someone that was interested in my life and supporting me more. Some people can't be everything for everyone. And it doesn't sound like you have any ill feelings,, more that you just need someone who supports you too.. I don't think she's that, but she's obviously not a horrible person so i wouldn't break up the friendship. I'd just lean on someone else to be more supportive.
I have had a few friends like this! I seem to attract them because I'm an introvert and don't really like talking about myself, but when I do I expect to be heard just the same as I do for them. If you have been friends with someone for a decent time and you know everything about them but you find yourself repeating little things about yourself like how you like your coffee or where you go on holidays then you're just being used as someone she can talk about herself too. It's a one sided friendship and you deserve better.
To be fair I’ve probably been this friend for periods of time in my life. I was going through a truly shitty time and just didn’t have the emotional space to deal with others stuff. It’s not that I didn’t want to deal, I was just barely hanging on.
It’s ok to be that person for periods of time in your life, but not constantly! Now that my shit is more sorted I’ve been able to be a better friend and better listener.
So this depends for me. If this is an always thing? Or has this been recently? If it’s always, time to accept that she isn’t that kind of friend and cut back on the energy you put into her.
Different friends for different needs. Obviously she's your friend for something other than her listening skills... That's OK.
I have someone in my life like this, it’s gets draining in the end, just distance yourself.
Sounds like a narcissist get her out of your life. I had friends like this. They drained me, I feel so sick and no energy left. I cut them from my life and it’s the best thing I ever did. My friend was a complete narcissist. Always about herself. Not a real friends who you rely, they are just friends and you are there to build their self esteem. Talking to her won’t help. They never change.