Who would help best to get past the past?
I'm. Having serious issues to. Forgive my partner for little Things and find myself treating him. Incorrectly just so he can feel. This pain he put me through and I constantly need to remind him. That back then he did this and back then he Lied about that.
The past half year he has been really trying hard but I just can't move on and find myself always caught in anger for old stuff. I already get angry about things before they happen and it's not healthy
Who do I see about getting over this rubbish so we can healthily move on?
Psychologist, counsellor? Other suggestions?
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My now husband hurt me so much in the first 4ish years. We used to play tit for tat out of who could hurt each other more. It was pretty toxic. We changed but the hurt and doubt never stopped. 2 years ago I sought help from a psychologist because I wanted to make sure I was mentally strong enough to leave him when I had planned and go on as a single parent. That didnt happen, the psychologist opened my eyes to how much I was harboring, the issues I'd created and most importantly the strength to move on from our past relationship and work on our future one. We got married last year and now have bub #3 on the way and we couldn't be more united. I strongly recommend seeking out a psychologist. It's so hard, you gotta open up wounds that you thought were permanently shut but you will be a whole new you, I promise.
If you want true happiness set him free. Be free from the troubles of the past and get out and be happy. Obviously he did things that you can never forgive. This is why I booted my ex. I knew I would always hold the grudge and it would eat me alive. Why should i suffer like that for the rest of my life when it was him that stuffed up. I went on to live the best of my life and I was so much happier for it. His past problems were no longer mine. He wasn’t hurt or upset, it was me. I’m so happy to be free of it. I personally couldn’t get over it. Some people can stay but I am strong and know I deserve better.
Also yes see a psychologist. I seen one and soon worked out I’d never get past it and why should I. I deserved to be treated better. As far as I’m concerned they can be nice when they are trying to win you back and know they have stuffed up. How long can they be like this for.? Life is too short and in my situation. This was my problem solved and glad I did.