I’m wanting another baby. I’ve found a donor who has given me copies of all his tests and he’s willing to donate and have nothing to do with the child.
I feel like this is the right thing however people are telling me they are worried about me because I’m meeting him to collect the sperm for home insemination.
I’m meeting at a public place service station/McDonald’s to collect the sperm. However due to my schedule and his it will be late at night 9pm. It’s a 24 hour service station and McDonald’s.
Should I be worried? It’s a legit page where they are screened not just let into.
Not really sure what I’m after. I won’t be talked out of using a donor my main thing is meeting this person to collect the sperm.
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How do you feel about meeting him? Does this make you feel uneasy or like you may judge him etc. and it hinder your future? Or are people worried about your safety?
There’s two things:
1. Sending a friend or family member to go and collect whilst you wait in the car
2. You collect whilst a friend or family member waits in the car
:)
If using a donor is what you want to get your family started, i fully support that decision.
However, i would be quite concerned about this prospective situation if we were speaking about one of my loved ones. I can 100% see why your family is alarmed, you're going to meet a man you don't know, at 9pm at night to obtain sperm at a MacDonalds servo. Nothing in that scenario sounds legitimate to me!
I am always sceptical of donors who don't want to go through proper channels with a donation clinic where it's all anonymous and done by the book in order to protect both parties identities/privacy. How certain can you be that this guy you found on online is legit? It's not hard to make webpages and screening tests look official? Does this guy have a police check? Can you be sure he is who he says he is? Will this transaction be legally recognised and binding? His word that he'll be "uninvolved" isn't enough, nothing in that case would stop him coming and claiming access to the potential child.
I can totally understand that burning desire for a child but don't let that desire make you throw caution to the wind regarding your immediate and potential future safety. Please think about this carefully!
Way too risky.. you don’t know for sure it’s his or if he has anything. Don’t be silly. I know you want this child so badly but there are proper ways to go about it. You are putting yourself and your baby at risk. Please don’t let your yearning for a baby cloud your thinking. By all means get a donor but not in this way.
My friend done this.
He booked a motel here (he lived 4 hours away) and her sister went with her to do it.
Everything was great, she didn’t fall pregnant the first time so they were going to try again. She told me it was legit and the real deal he was off a group page that had all your ID ect....
But she thought twice about using this man or the page a second time when the married man started stalking her and her fiancé!
Another thing to consider is that it is not easy to get Centrelink to simply accept that you don't know the father if they are not listed on the birth certificate. It is much harder than that now and they insist on knowing more and trying to pursue the farther for child support payments. They will want to know the details. Going through a known donor bank would make this much more straight forward. Aside from the health concerns and risk of this man having multiple children etc.
No you’re right, what could possibly go wrong?! 🤦♀️