My friend is so entitled

How do I deal with my friend without losing the friendship?

My friend has a very high expectation of others, from very small expectations to very large.

It started off small, normal things that i’d do for anyone like bringing her a coffee because i’m grabbing myself one anyway, or saying i’m at the supermarket do you want anything etc.

I started to find if I went to the shopping centre and didn’t go out of my way to offer anything i’d get passive aggressive comments such as “thanks for letting me know you were going” or “where’s my coffee woman”

It then became really regular, i’d cook a meal and she would ask me to save a plate... no biggie but happens all the time. Can I borrow an outfit then not return for months, can I borrow your car (she has a car but likes mine better) can I host my tupperware party at your house, can i borrow.... borrow.... borrow she also i might add does not look after things she borrows. She borrows money from everyone because she simply lives outside her means, she doesn’t pay on the promised day, you have to cha d her up.

Then there’s the babysitter thing, she always and i mean always wants everyone to watch her kids,not just for an hour, it’s always overnight. Ordinarily wouldn’t be an issue but her kids are literally born from hell fire... I dread being around them, all of our friends do. I’ve had so many things broken out of pure disrespect, the rudeness out of their mouths makes it impossible to like them. She doesn’t like anyone telling them off, I have yelled at them in front of her twice, she took it on the chin but she didn’t like it at all.

She is very materialistic, will bitch about a birthday present that a friend got her, nothing is ever good enough. She also takes so much of everyone’s time, she knows everyone’s roster, if we have a day off she wants us to drive her around to do really expensive things that are out of most people’s reach. If I say i’m having a day on the couch (i work 7 days on 2 off plus i’m a single mum to 2 young girls) she makes comments that i’m slack, or that i’m not living my best life.

Her whole life is face book and instagram, she knows everything about everyone. she’s very much about the perfect front so everyone sees she’s ‘living her best life’
The competitive parenting is so unhealthy, to the point that her children get angry or emotional if another kid preforms better at a particular task.

And now, here’s where i’m getting upset... she’s begun to lie about things, one thing in particular is a fraud that will end in financial gain. There’s no reason for it other than greed, she thinks I don’t know but i overheard something she said to her husband.

Now most people would just say end the friendship, I’m not in the habit of ditching people, and if everyone ditched her that was annoyed by her, she would have no one. I realise I’ve painted a dim picture but this is the bad stuff. She also has a very supportive, fun and loving side.

It really is the selfish princess complex here that’s starting to take a large toll on our friendship group.

I’ll add that we have tried talking, tact isn’t my strong point, I always make her cry. Please give me pointers on how to make this stop without me telling her to F#%k off.