I feel like I'm alone, I have hubby beside me every day, however, I don't have any close female friends. I have a girlfriend, which seems to take from the "relationship"however never gives, never checks on me or my kids. I am always messaging or calling, but never get any "random" messages to check on me or even after first day of back to school - Nothing. The nail in the coffin for me finally after many of years; it was my eldest first day of high school too.
I just dont feel like talking to this friend at all now.
I really want to find a best friend, that I can have weekend or even days escapes with. that's going to randomly check on me.
I just don't feel like that is ever going to happen :(
Any suggestions to "find" a friend?
Feeling Alone
Feeling Alone
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I have no suggestions sorry, but if you figure it out let me know. I have four young kids (6and under) moved to the other end of the country a year ago, don’t really know anybody and don’t have a single friend, my partner works long hours and even when he is home he put more effort into hating his ex than he does in loving me. I never leave the house unless it’s to run errands or do something for the kids, I’m suffocating in my own home and would love just one friend to talk to 😌
Original Poster here - I'm sorry to hear!
It gets hard. Where are you located now?
Hang in there, I have tried to reach out to other parents, but working Full time, I don't get to see any at drop off, and the kids go to after school care I don't see many parents there either.
Stay strong!
Want friends then start being one. Pay an interest in others, make effort, do ALL the things you would want done to you.
If only everyone had the same intentions as each other. Unfortunately some people have friendships for their own convienience. So it’s ok to say do all the things you would want done to you.. I have a caring heart and drop things for everyone because that is me. I expect nothing in return, I just like helping people. It’s in my nature and it’s how I was raised. I can tell you, this has been a downfall mostly, sad but true. I seem to attract people who can benefit from me until they no longer need me. The worst part is, it’s so blatantly obvious to me what they are doing and I play dumb.it hurts, it’s a kick in the guts. It took me a long time to cut these people off. I now distance myself from people and keep my contact with new friends limited. I don’t get too involved with them and it’s made me a happier a person for it. no everyone we meet is the same but there is a lot of people out there who take the piss out of genuine, kind people.
I’m Always looking for another grownup to have a chat with! Where are u from? I’m in Brissy, south side.
This was so me. I was so depressed. My best friend who I spent 5 years helping was like this to me. It took me a long time to cut her off and I haven’t looked back. I feel so much better cut all contact with her. I was alone and my husband worked away. It was always me helping her and doing things for her, I would drop everything for her. I felt so kicked in the guts. I always felt so upset when she would bail me last minute if we made plans. I was always there for her kids birthdays even though she had family close by and I had none. She never turned up to my kids birthdays, always had an excuse. It’s so hurtful. I feel for you because I know what this feeling is like. Please cut this person off for your own good else they just chew you up and spit you out..! If there is nothign in it for them, they aren’t there. They aren’t friends they are users.!