Full custody- no contact for two years. Junkie father.

Anon Imperfect Mum

Full custody- no contact for two years. Junkie father.

My sons has not seen his biological father in two years, he is only 4 now. The past 3 years, his father has been on drugs (Ice), become homeless on and off, multiple outstanding warrants which resulted in his going to jail for a few months and he is now out on 12 month probation with regular drug tests. I am now married to a wonderful man who has taken on the father role with ease, they have a really strong bond which formed very naturally and my son calls him dad. My son does not know his biological father, I showed him a photo recently and he did not know who it was. I recently made contact with the bio dad to ask for a signature on a passport form to renew my sons passport and he is now asking to have a relationship with the child. I said not until he gets his life together and so now he is refusing to sign the passport renewal form. I am going to see a lawyer but I am after some advice or stories on other people’s experience with the family courts and drug addicted and violent parents. I am going to be asking for full custody as my son is not safe with his bio dad and it will do more harm than good to even have supervised access. When the bio dad was not around my son was constantly sad that he didn’t have a dad and he is now thriving with my husband.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Ok first things first. Your husband IS NOT his father. As much as his father is an arsehole you need to accept this and you have an obligation to be honest with your son. Your husband sounds like he’s doing an amazing job and you must be so grateful to have a great stepfather to your child.
I hate to say this but if it goes to court he will at minimum get supervised visitation. Don’t make it harder on your son by not allowing him to know that this is his biological father. Try and work with his dad (truth be known he will probably drop out of the picture again considering his MO). You and your husband just need to show your son that you are both always going to be there for him.
I’m sorry parenting with an addict is very hard.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

I agree with this comment. If he can pass a drug test, he will be likely to get supervised visits. And they can progress to unsupervised time

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