Hi ladies ,
I have 4 girls but I haven’t had to deal with any teenagers / ore teen as yet so knneed some guidance . my eldest daughter who just turned 9 lately has had some intense attitude and moodyness , she’s really stubborn and can be very rude to myself and her dad , every time she does though after a wholeness she cries and says she’s not sure why she is like she is . She has also started crying uncontrollably over small things .
The other day she came home from school and told me under her arms smelt and she had some intense BO under there that she’s never had before , so we went and bought some deodorant and we talked about cleaning herself well etc
Is she going through puberty already ? :( I need help and guidence on the best way to help her and be the best mother I can be during this time , I wahr to be supportive and full of guidence and someone she can come too . I just feel a little lost on if there is anything I should be doing or saying and how to deal with her moodyness and tears
( yes she already knows all about sex babies periods changing bodies etc )
Thanks ladies ❤️
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It sounds like she is at the beginning of puberty, it's so important to be as you are aiming to be (open and reassuring). Answer her questions, if she needs something like deodorant let her pick some out with you, keep a spare pair of undies and some roll on deodorant in her school bag. Probably not necessary just yet but possibly pick out a nice little face wash also.
Don't tolerate the rudeness though, it's okay to be grumpy but she can't be horrible to people. Practice calming down with her, finding alternatives and discussing how she is feeling :)
Are you sure she knows about changing bodies? Because I’m the post you’re unsure of the signs of puberty so how can she be sure?
Body odour is usually the first sign of the onset of puberty. Her hormones are kicking in and affecting her moods and physiology.
It is time to have a read of Kaz Cooke’s girls stuff BEFORE giving her a copy and discussing it with her.
When my daughter started we sat down and created strategies to calm ourselves and talked about identifying emotions. But you cannot teach your child anything you don’t already know. There are so many books please read some.
Also stay body positive for example “Sweetheart you have some body odour, would you like to have a nice shower and put some deodorant on?” Not “You stink! Put some deodorant on!”. Speaking from experience choosing your words wisely reduces tears.