Large age gap relationships

Anon Imperfect Mum

Large age gap relationships

Is anyone in a large age gap relationship (over 20 years gap) how did you go with your family and friends accepting the relationship? Mine are worried he is going to die at any moment and leave me single again. Im in my 30's, he's in his 50's. Thanks

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Anon Imperfect Mum

I'm in an 18 year age gap and my mum was ok with it but my dad not so much (they only have 3 years age gap) but once they got to know him they loved him and think he's the best thing to happen to me :) I know he'll most likely die before me but I'm so happy with him and even if I get only 10 years of pure happiness with him before he passes I'm grabbing it and never letting go.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Not me but my hubby's brother and his wife - they've been together 15+ years and she's my age (mid-late 30s) and he's in his mid 50s. They have 2 young kids. Honestly, you can't tell my BIL is 20 years older than his wife and myself, he certainly doesn't act it! Baha! I don't personally know if her family (or his family, for that matter) had issues with it at the beginning but they are a great couple and don't seem to have issues around the age gap.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

50ish is hardly 'old', especially in this day and age. Some men are just starting their families in their late forties/early fifties.
I'm 28 and find lots of men in their 40s sexy as hell.
The only time I have an issue with age gaps is when they're illegal!

If you guys are happy, your relationship is healthy, you have the same life goals, you love and respect each other - what your family have to say about it doesn't really matter!

It also kind of amuses me that they seem to see you being single as a fate worse than death lol. It's hardly the end of the world should it come to that!

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Die at any moment lol I’m sorry your post made me chuckle 😀
What they are saying is ridiculous, you do you!

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Anon Imperfect Mum

OP here. Lol I agree 😂

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Anon Imperfect Mum

As long as it's legal it shouldn't matter.

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Janine Rout

Yes! I’m 44, my boyfriend (been together nearly a year) is nearly 23.
All our friends are absolutely fine with it. His dad and brothers are supportive and awesome. His mum isn’t. She’s nasty and bitchy but apparently she’s like it with everyone, so I’m not worried.
My mum was a bit concerned at first but is now cool with it (haven’t seen dad in years, no idea there), and my sons think he’s the best. Daughter who is nearly 19 isn’t impressed, but she’ll get over it.
Caused a fair amount of talk in my small town, but people got over it. Only ones who didn’t are judgmental bitches and no one cares what they think.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

I’m 31 he’s just turned 50
Been together 13 years , married 8.
Everyone at the start was judgey and didn’t like it ...But I didnt / don’t care ....
it’s not their life
Everyone just accepts it now

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Do what makes you happy!!!
As long as no-one else is harmed with this, fuck the haters

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Anon Imperfect Mum

I am 47 and my husband is 63. We've been together 4.5 years & married 5 months. We have 7 children between us ages 44, 40, 39, 36, 21, 18, 16. A couple of his children had an issue. But pretty much everyone else said they could see how happy we are. A few friends worried about me having to look after him in his old age. I was diagnosed with brain cancer 6 months ago, so he looks after me & I'll probably die first.

I have zero regrets. He has given me a beautiful life. Listen to your heart xx

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