So we had my partners brothers kids stay for the weekend, when the kids were dropped off on Saturday I noticed the older one was scratching her hair a lot so I asked the mum about it and the mum said oh I think she has nits
I said ok well I can treat them if she has them (I’m a hairdresser) and the Mum said no I don’t want you touching them.
Now the kid did have nits and now my 3 kids have nits. I’ve treated my kids and myself and luckily my partner is bald. However I’m furious that the kids mother didn’t bother to see if she had nits before coming to stay the weekend. I feel as though she should have treated her kids before they came to stay as I would have done to mine. I rang her and told her yes your kid has nits we now all have them and she said oh well shit happens
I’m thinking of not having them stay over anymore as not only do we have a nit investation but one of the girls drew on the walls, went into the kitchen and opened the flour containers and emptied them on the floor. And they are 7 and 8 so should know better. I just need a way to tell the parents I don’t want them staying here anymore
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Just don't offer anymore or if they ask just say no sorry. Why would they just empty flour containers though? And if you treat them all now you should skip the infestation because they wouldn't have been in the hair long enough for that. I would have just asked that she does her hair before coming to your place.
She doesn’t believe in hair washing or treating hair for nits as it’s a natural thing apparently
They tipped the flour on the floor because at midnight I said it was time for everyone to go to sleep so because they don’t have a bedtime at home they got angry that I turned the tv off and made everyone get into their beds
I just find your story a little unbelievable and over exaggerated. If you don't like the children don't have them over it does nobody any good, I think you've posted several times before.
No I haven’t posted before and this is what happened. And if you choose to believe otherwise that’s your choice
You find the story unbelievable and over exaggerated?? Wow!! Rude!!! Why bother commenting??🙄 Wondering now if you’re actually the horrible neglectful mum that doesn’t bother treating her kids hair. 😏
If they ask if they can have a sleep over again. Just tell them no. Say sorry. We don’t do nits and 7 and 8 year olds should know the difference between right and wrong. I’d be mortified if I sent my kid for a sleep over and they had nits. Send her the bill for the nit treatments!! Nits are so friggen disgusting I’m scratching just from the thought of them.
Say no each and every time. Say you’re busy. Tell her you’re happy to catch up at a park or something just no to having them sleep over again. Unless they’re nit free and promise to draw on paper and stay out of your food cupboards.
I’d have either sent the kids home or treated the kids nits regardless of the issue.
Rule in my house is if you have nits you go home. I check kids hair of they’re scratching. One of my sons mates has them often. His mum does too. She sits there at school assembly and school council meetings picking at them. Of course, she doesn’t “use chemicals”. One time I checked his hair and he was crawling with them, so I gave him a treatment with Ban Lice and washed his hair. He didn’t come back in a hurry and neither did the lice.
If kids are riddled with lice and misbehaving, you’ve every right to not have them visit. Your home, your rules.
You let her know that if she drops kidswith nits to stay at your house, they will be treated by you. If she disagrees she can take the kids.
You let your partner say no, and if you do the caring and they would look to you for an answer, he says, she is too busy/ booked/ resting this weekend and can't do that with those kids unfortunately.
"Oh I think she has nits"
This is where you should have said:
"Well in that case, you'd better come collect her then".
People who refuse to treat their kids hair for lice piss me off. It's borderline neglect.
I wouldn't bother inviting them over any more, their mother sounds like a half wit!
I know this sounds really harsh but a kid having nits staying over is not on for me. I has literally taken me years and god know how much money, time and tears to finally for good (i hope)get rid of nits out of my daughters really really thick hair. There is no way id let someone stay who had them. If she wants to drop the kids off thats fine but your house your rules and you treat them.
I was honestly worried about over stepping the mark if I treated the kids. Obviously I know the treatment is safe and everything but I hate upsetting people
Clearly! You’re a push over. Stand up for yourself or don’t be whinging about it
Tell your partner to tell his brother the kids are not to stay next time they ask. Regardless of the nits, Tipping flour on the floor is disgusting behavior, ESPECIALLY at someone else's house. My son is that age and he would NEVER EVER dream of behaving like that at his aunty and uncles house.
Wow 😲 I can’t believe she’d send her daughter with lice. I mean. Who does that! I would be mortified if you found lice in my daughters hair at a sleep over and I absolutely wouldn’t send her if I knew!
Wow total lack of respect for you and your family. Don’t have them stay again. Yes the kids suffer because if the mothers attitude but what is she teaching them. The poor kids it isn’t their fault either.
Tell your partner to say no next time he is asked if they can stay over. Make an excuse, whatever it is. Not on kids with lice not being treated or emptying your cupboard. Feel sorry for the kids - sure they would love to be rid of the lice.
a) I would have treated them regardless but that’s just me.
b) why the heck would a parent (not you) not enforce a bed time to the extent that they were still up at midnight? Especially at those ages. Plus I would have made them clean the mess
That would be the first and last time they stayed over, totally disrespectful 👎 Just say NO you don’t need an excuse.
Get your partner to have a chat with his brother, he's the children's father. She sounds like a weapon.... Avoid her.