I have to introduce my daughter to her bio father. She doesn’t know him and thinks my husband is her father. Her bio was a drug addict and has recently got clean, we have a serious past history of domestic violence. She is 6 years old. Please help me. What is the best way to go about this ?
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The first thing to do is introduce the concept of step parents stepping in and loving a child as their own, and being honest about her dad. You can get books, finding this out could rock her and take some time to re-explain and answer questions and go over the timeline.
Then the next part will come naturally when she asks about her 'real' dad.
How recent? I’d seek professional advice. If you are talking less than 12 months I’d steer clear
I would seek advice from a professional to see the best way to handle this, I think she should know that “dad” is he best man in her life, but that she has another dad. I think if she I brought up knowing there is a bio dad, when she is older and wants to know more she doesn’t feel like her life is lies. I also wouldn’t let this man just drop into her life, perhaps he needs to be clean for a while then become a friend? And be very careful