I separated from my sociopathic narcissist husband just over a year ago. We have a seven year old daughter together. He had been leading a double life with another partner, another baby (now x 2). I've since found out he frequented prostitutes, was in a one year "relationship" with one & that he also has two boyfriends. No doubt there have been many other affairs over the years, I will never know it all. The lies he told me are incredible, I still cannot believe what i was living with. He has made the past year hell with stalking, intimidation, denial, claims of mental illness, he successfully took our child without my concent - the other woman went along with this as she was spotted in the vehicle (i only got my child back with police intervention after 3 days of hell) & then attempted a second time (unsuccessfully). I have allowed supervised visitation throughout the year (supervised for my daughters safety due to his own mental health claims), but he's only seen her 7 times this year. He refuses to tell me where he lives. He sporadically pays $30/mth in child support (he has his own business & earns good money) but otherwise contributes nothing.
My questions are, in view of the coming year & future: how do i co-parent with this person? Is that even a possibility (up till now its impossible. I cannot even talk to this man)? How can i trust the other woman in his life? How can i trust her with my daughter? Everything in me violently rebels from the idea of leaving her with them - how could i trust they would give her back? He says many things but everything is a lie. Is there anyone in a similar situation? How did you cope & what did you do for your kids?

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Hope this is of help. I feel your pain
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That’s really terrible. Do you have any of lunacy in text form can you get any kind of court order? I wouldn’t feel comfortable leaving her with them either. So sorry
Nope no not possible
Co parenting would not be an option here . Keep a relationship if your daughter wants to buy only with supervised contact until she’s older and then see whether she wants to continue or not .... people like him aren’t parenting ... she would become a paw in his manipulative games ... just nope