Absolutely frustrated today
So currently I’m an engaged 24 year old woman with many loving nieces and nephews and godchildren but none of my own just yet
And apparently people in the neighbour have felt the need to approach my mum and ask her am I pregnant I’m not
And now I have people
Messaging me on fb asking am I pregnant and when I say no they ask am I sure as I seem to have a lot to do with children (I also work as a nanny for two twin baby girls)
Now the thing is I wouldn’t normally mind but I actually just found out that to have a child we will need ivf so it’s a sore subject and people won’t leave me alone. I’m sick to death of being asked am I pregnant? Why don’t I have any kids? When am I gonna have kids? Etc
What’s some ways to deal with this? It’s reallt starting to get to me
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Sheesh. Pressure at 24 is a bit rough.
Pressure at all is not acceptable in my eyes no matter their age. It’s not anyone business beside the lady and her husband/partner as to whether they’ll have children or not.
I'd ask your mum to stop mentioning it to you if people approach her about it. You really don't need to know every time someone sticks their nose where it doesn't belong - ignorance is bliss so to speak!
People who message you directly, call them out on it:
"If and when I decide to have children, I will let people know if and when I want to.
Please do not ask me again, I find it rude, invasive of my privacy and innapropriate".
Some people just have no boundaries, I would never ask someone this, I certainly wouldn't go around their relatives fishing for gossip or brazenly asking over a text!
Wow that's really weird. It sounds like a rumour has gone around. I would reassure them youre not and that being asked is hurtful, that you would announce it so please don't ask.
That's very strange that people are messaging you and feeling the need to talk about it. Has someone maybe mentioned something and now there's something floating around?
I was seen in the local baby shop carrying out a bassinet for my best friend who’s having her third baby. And apparently people think that’s all a cover story
I’ve gotten to the point where I’ve considered shutting down my fb so no one can message me
Have you seen the viral Facebook post about not asking women when they're having a baby?
I'd share said post and tag all the nosey f**kers who keep PMing you, it's a little confrontational but it'll send the message loud and clear!
You could always just tell them it’s none of their god dam business and to eff off?
This is where facebook comes in handy, just write a post saying that somehow there is a rumour going around that you are pregnant but you would like to tell everyone that you definitely are not, and won't be in the near future. Problem solved!
Turn around and say none of your business. Or just ask them when’s the next time they’d re having sex? Or say no are you? People are extremently rude