Im after some advice please... We don't want to drag the children through the court process, but my partner's ex-wife has stopped responding to the only channel of communication we had.
It's been 2 years with no parenting plan/court orders in place - (not through lack of trying on our behalf); and both of the mediation sessions we organised didn't achieve anything with the children's mum refusing to sign anything at the end of both sessions claiming she needed to seek legal advice. Several letters sent to her legal representative over the months requesting the agreement/settlement of a parenting agreement with the view to becoming court orders have been ignored.
With Christmas & another set of school holidays coming up, we have no way of knowing when the children will get to see their Dad... And organising his leave from work to coincide with when the children are with us is impossible without any communication from their Mum.
At present, the children are only allowed to see their Dad 4 nights a fortnight (one weekend & Thursday nights). He has requested alternating weeks over the school holidays, but his ex-wife wont commit to anything & the children have become quite anxious with worry that they wont get to spend much time with their Dad over Christmas/School Holidays.
The children are both 9, and over the last 3 months, they have both been expressing their frustration at not being allowed to see their Dad more. He's not sleeping through stressing about it and we have no idea what to do next...
Has anyone got any suggestions as to what our options are when the other parent stops responding to communication through lawyers?
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Get the kids and refuse to send them back until court orders are in place
If it was that important to him he would have taken her to court by now
Always amazes me how step mothers like to be over - involved .
Ur just as big a pig headed cruel bitch of a thing as the original posters problem I bet you selfish Cunt of a thing☝️🖕
Haven't got anything nice to say - say nothing!
Wow. Sounds to me like you have some issues of your own that you need to sort out.. if you actually read the post properly, you might see that the poster is asking for advice not judgement.
Yeah mate his gotta get down and dirty through the process and hard yards and take the bitch to family circuit court and get orders done in writing and stamped by the judge....Long slow and painful process but by the sounds of it if U don't it's going to be a whole lot worse and longer before the kids are old enough to tell her themselves to get rooted and move in with Dadda.... It could take two or so years if the stubborn thing keeps stuffing ya's round but it will all be documented and witnessed by the judge at the end of the process and if it comes to that they will give everything back to her that she deserves and award for you guys trying the decision to get custody as full care providers or eqaul/part custody of them kiddies....They are seriously interested and looking down their noses considerably more these days at the parents not doing what's right for the children and families of them... What's right is for a child to have equal opportunity and part in life's of both parents and the parent should and need to accommodate for them unless there's a dvo or family violence in pp place...90% of the time that's just bullshit too for a narsasistic mother to alienate the kids from Dad's but take full child support happily with open arms....Good luck and get on it👍
Maybe to make the situation better you need to back off. Maybe your involvement is making things worse. The kids have two parents not three and maybe your involvement is making her hold out. To be honest if it were me I’d hold out until he took me to court.
Put up with it or go to court
At the end of the day it's not ur problem they not ur children and this is not ur fight the communication should only be between ur partner and the mother of the children through the right avenues not u if the mother isnt speaking it maybe cos of u and the fact u r talking on ur partners behalf being a step parent is hard so hard hang in there stop trying the mother will never agree to anything let ur partner do the talking