I meet a man the other week. He was my removalist. He was a very polite man. I'm a single mum. So my dad was there helping me move. It was a big interstate move. My dad even said how polite and respectful he was. Which is something my dad never says. His an old school navy man who's all about respect and politeness.
We got along well while we were all packing the truck. It was just like an instant friendship between us.
He left and my dad told me I should ring the company and get his number. I thought he has my number on the invoice so he can contact me. And he did!
We live an hour and a half away from each other.
He understands me being a single mum as his mum raished him and his sisters alone.
We have been talking alot.
But the problem is I'm so scared of getting hurt again.
My last two partners cheated on me with other women and called me awful things druing our time together. This guy does seem different. But how do I know. I'm confused if I should take the next step and see him again in person or should i just run.
I believe there is love and everyone told me someone will come along when I'm not looking. And I didn't think that would be when my removalist men came.
He told me he would be keen to get to know me more. His actually the first man who hasnt invited me over to his house straight up or flirted with me in a way I don't feel comfortable. When we have been talking it's all been friendly talk nothing else which is weird for me. But good.
His invied me to the beach where he lives and asked me to bring my daughter along to play with his little sister there around the same age. So it sounds like he wants casual too no fancy dinners or late nights which is good for me. But it's nice. But then again is it just another man doing a different act.
How do I go about this? Do I question him drill him with lots questions haha.
Can you trust again after being heart broken twice?
Trusting again.
Trusting again.
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This made me feel all warm and fuzzy !! 😍😍
But there’s always a but .... the honeymoon period eventually ends . Every relationship has one because nothing is perfect. Let’s hope when this one does it’s just a gentle crash and not a big one . Go for it but go slow so you adjust . Rushing just becomes a whirlwind and the wrong thing to do when you’re protecting your Heart. Slow and steady wins the race regardless so don’t overburden yourself so early with future thoughts. Take a day at a time .
Are you the same poster who went through a nasty relationship and your ex went back to his ex? If so, I think you and your daughter need some clarity and some time to get settled into your new area. If you really want to get to know this guy better than do it without your daughter, keep it simple and basic and at a friendship level.
See, the most important thing here is learning to trust one person again - YOURSELF.
He has to earn your trust, you have a child, I'd be worried if you did blindly trust him at this point but you need to be able to trust your own judgment, make smart choices and not overlook potential red flags!
I'd go into it cautious but optimistic. Take it slow, get to know him well as a friend before you progress to a romantic relationship and lay all your cards out upfront - if he's just trying to get into your pants he won't bother, if he's genuine he'll happily take things slow too.
Then If it doesn't work out at least you tried, if it does then fantastic!
This is what I wanted to say. New relationships are about getting to know someone, watching for red flags and not ignoring them. It’s up to him to earn your trust by being a good friend, and gradually moving to more.
Guys who want to move fast are a red flag in itself, you never get to know the real them until you are in too deep.
I'd go for it, you only live once. But in saying that, I'd take it slow with the guy. Sure neet him and his sister for an hour or so but dont suddenly jump into it. Take your time and get to know him.