My son is in year 7 in high school. And just quitely is killing me!!! His behaviour to me is totally hit and miss some days he is human and great to be around, other moments he is a belligerent, lazy pain in my arse. And to make things worse he has taken a total dislike to a couple of his teachers and his hot and cold behaviour too. This is having a massive impact on his results, and I find frustrating as he has no good reason for being rude to these people, or any care that he is in trouble. I have no idea what is going on with him, he won’t tell me anything just that he is a bad kid and that’s the way it is.... anyone got any suggestions??? Has a good diet, plays indoor soccer and trains at a gym one day a week, our fam is pretty average mum dad and sisters, dogs. No real struggles or excuses for any of it
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It really is a hard age for boys, that transition from primary school to being in high school, the influx of testosterone and hormone changes. I have a 13 year old boy who is quite the same. He doesnt misbehave at school but his effort is hit and miss depending on the subject/teacher. He is so ignorant and lazy sometimes though at home and can torment the life and/or be rude to his siblings. I also have a 16 year old girl who didnt really go through the same, she has always been helpful and studious. The only difference between the 2 is that my daughter expresses herself better and was more mature and better equiped to handle that teenage flood of hormones.
So in conclusion i have no helpful advice lol, i just try take the good with the bad, be patent and we stay out of his way when he is being a pain cause i know deep down he is a good kid and he will find his feet soon. Its hard to bite my tongue sometimes and i most definetly pull him up if he is being rude or disrespectful but not being on his back so much has actually helped and his school has been a fabulous help in moving him to the gifted and talented class, he is surrounded by kids that are focused and the work is more interesting so holds his attention in most classes... the ones he still struggles in the teachers arent really concerned with as they say not every subject is for every kid.
Just know your not alone x
Get him along to your local Headspace. There is obviously something going on for him that needs to be dealt with.