Hi girls, I am not really asking for any advice just need to vent.
I feel so overwhelmed with life right now, I just want to hide away and be left alone. I have 3 boys 14, 11, and 5 I feel so walked all over and just constantly running around for them, cleaning up, cooking dinner, being the ref for their fights and arguments, my 2 oldest boys speak to me like shit, they swear and although it’s not directed at me none the less they swear when they are angry at something I have asked them to do, I then have to use energy to put them in their place (I don’t smack, I take away things and I will admit I do yell) just when I think I am going to have a somewhat relaxed day someone in my house wants something from me or needs something from me, I don’t expect to get the whole day to myself but it would be nice just to get an hour to unwind. My partner I feel always wants something from me as well I feel when he isn’t in a good mood he puts that energy onto me and I then feel in a shit mood too, he’s always taking about sex and how I don’t give it to him on my own accord he has to “ask” which isn’t true stop talking and start doing something to start it up I’ll be down for that: even tho I do give him sex at least once a week or some form of affection it’s like he forgets about it the next day and consistently talks about sex and jokes around about it but it’s not really a joke it then turns into you’re all talk etc about me flirting with him but he says I never follow through, that man forgets what he had for breakfast and hour after he ate breakfast , I just want him to stop fucking talking about sex, shut up and just talk to me about something else for once. I’m sick of people expecting so much from me, I give and I feel like they want more. Nothing I do is never good enough, lord can anyone else relate?
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I wish we could have a coffee and cry on each others shoulders... this is my life... my partner is a shovinistic pig we are a blended family yet his daughter gets treated like royalty mine get treated like crap
Sounds like you meant "ex" not partner. Don't put up with that.
Ladies, you are worth more. Please stop allowing this behavior from your men.
I have 4 boys, all adults now and we've gone through the gamut of moodiness and poor behavior. Never, in all our trials was disrespect for me, each other, or others allowed. That includes contributing to a functioning domestic environment.
From what you have both said, they are modelling their father's. Start right there. My ex never allowed the kids to be disrespectful of me. My current partner the same. And both adult men attended couples couselling to learn to be connected, contributing family leaders.
I have told both my partners - I don't NEED a man, making sure I keep WANTING you :)
Much love guys. Thank you so much for replying. I wish we could have a coffee to and devise a plan to make some changes within our family and then be each other’s support.
I believe they are modelling their father’s behaviour and come to think of it I have told their father this with no avail I don’t think he believe it.
Thanks again guys I don’t feel so alone now xoxo
Give them warning that if they don't change their ways you will go on strike for a week.
Then go on strike.
So all night I have been vomiting and in bed all day. My partner just came into the room and said why don’t I get out of the house for a bit go to Coles and get some chicken wings, that might make you feel better. I said no I feel like vomiting, he said god you’ve been in here all day. I feel so sad crying alone is all I can do.
Did you throw a bucket of spew at him? 🤮