Bit of a background....
I have a 9 month old baby daughter whose father,my ex,has not and appears won’t pay child support.It was a planned pregnancy by us both but he ended things several weeks after conception.He wanted me to terminate and I refused.He has not been heard from since.I was not able to put his name on the birth certificate as he had to provide three forms of ID and sign it..I did request that but it didn’t happen.
I made contact with him and his parents who knew we were expecting,when my baby was born,both by text message(I seen it was read) and by registered post in letter form.I did not get any response.Thats their choice and I except that but I don’t except him not paying child support. I have applied twice for it and been told no as they can’t verify paternal parentage.I don’t know if they actually got in contact with him or not.I have explained my situation to the csa and Centrelink,provided a statutory declaration that Centrelink asked for so my payment for my baby wasn’t affected...but it was no good.
I applied for legal aid and was knocked back.I have since contacted legal aid again and spoke to a child support lawyer who was abit dumbfounded as to why I was knocked back as he thinks he can help my situation.
It basically comes down to needing a court ordered DNA test to prove he is the father to enable child support to collect what his legal responsibilitie to our child is.
This man has a well paying job,has a small share in his place of work(his boss is the kind of person to cover up for my ex as they are good mates),regularly leaves the country with his work and recently for a holiday with family,has two cars worth around $100,000 that he constantly does up.He
has more than enough money to pay.
Has anyone gone through something similar in that their child’s father wouldn’t pay child support and they had to try and take him to court and get a DNA test etc?
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It's common and if he refuses the judge will assume parentage and order him liable and CSA can register it based on that.
I know plenty of kids who have fathers on the birth certificate without them providing any documentation. My partner is on my sons birth certificate all he did was sign the paper work. But your ex won't do that. You can tell centre link who the father is and births deaths and marriages also then you tell child support. The only reason I can see you having issues is if you do not live on Australia and now you need proof of paternity which a judge can make happen. I also know plenty of kids who's dads names appear on the birth certificates but they didn't sign and refused to sign the papers the mums still receive child support even if it's at the end of every tax year when they do their taxes. If you have proof ie text messages telling you to get rid of her etc you'll possibly get a judge to rule in your favour as well as centre link. You can't be punished for your ex not signing paperwork and centre link even have forms to fill in that state you've tried to contact the guy he's refusing to sign paperwork etc keep looking at their site and try everything possible to work this out.
Depends, did you or he use protection/contraception? He made it clear he didnt want the baby, wanted you to terminate, & then broke up with you so he wouldn't be involved. YOU disagreed & ignored this, still decided to go ahead & have this child, knowing he wanted nothing to do with it cos obviously didn't want to start a family. Now you're trying to make him pay child support?!
Are you serious? This is a little presumptuous don’t you think?
Did you not read the post properly?! IT WAS A PLANNED PREGNANCY BY BOTH so of course no protection was used...then the father turned around and changed his mind about wanting a child AFTER he WILLINGLY CONSENTED AND HELP to create a child.
Why should he get out of child support just because he decided he didn’t want a child after said baby was made??!!!
He planned to get her pregnant, she fell regnant then he broke up with her. Legally he is responsible financially for that kid. Stop trying to make this lady feel guilty for asserting her legal rights. This guy needs to accept his responsibility.
Are u ready to be separated from your child? Are you ready for him to say I want her ever other weekend?
I know it takes two to make a child and to support, but he made his choice and you made yours. Would it not be better for your child to one day say to you, thanks for the hard work bringing me up in your own, rather than, I hated that I had two houses, a father who never wanted me.
Yes, it’s a struggle. My child is now 15 and I have been a single parent since she was a month old. He’s paid in total $120 in child support. We don’t need his money or any contribution, we are better off without him. I work my ass for to send my child to private school and give her things that I didn’t have as a hold. I hope one day shoe is grateful.
Yep. Court ordered test. Sneaky fucker who works for qld health scammed the test and came back negative. Can't do anything after that. Good luck.
I am so sorry you are going through this. You and your baby deserve so much more.
I just want to say that I am absolutly appalled at the answers on the fb page. All those perfect women expecting you to have terminated your baby or let him get away without paying for his child.
I would be doing everything I could to get Child support. Your baby deserves to be supported by both parents. I really hope he doesnt try to come back into your lives, but he doesnt sound very responsible so that is doubtful.