The longer I’m with husband the more i realise he only cares about himself and I have to stop myself everyday from saying I hate him. I don’t know if I do but I honestly feel like I’m only here because of our kids. As a couple with have been through some of the most traumatic events parents could face and all I can think is how can we get through that and be on the verge of divorce now. I always felt like if we survived that we could survive anything, turns out we can’t. I could almost describe him as narcissistic. After everything we went through I sort mental health and had to beg and threaten divorce before I could convince him to go, so he went..... to one frigging session!!!!!
I can’t convince him to calm down when he gets mad over the most minor stuff. He’s not the man I fell in love with at all, but I don’t want to give up.... until tonight!
I’ve just been bed ridden sick this last week and today is the first day I feel like I can function so i cook a big dinner -plenty of left overs incase I don’t cope with the next few days, bathed the kids , gave them dinner, did homework. He comes home an hr after his usual time and the second he comes in he decides to take a call from his friend- these calls usually take at least 30mins. And then when I ask him to help with the kids rather than get straight on the phone he says I’m being aggressive, I know I was speaking in a grumpy tone but In no way aggressive- he says it to me because he knows it hurts me to think that’s how I’m portrayed. Then said well I had to deal with the kids while you lay in bed and did nothing all weekend. It hurt so bad that he has such little care and concern for me or our kids that he would throw me being really sick back in my face. All I can do is cry because I have no idea how I can fix this I just know I’m sick of Bowing down to him all the time.
How can approach my husband
How can approach my husband
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Lol. I get cranky when hubby is sick and I'm doing everything and vice versa. It's not a lack of disregard at all, just us getting tired from doing everything when we're usually run down too. And when I speak to him in frustration he perceives it as aggressive and vice versa. Things got better once both of us sorted out our mental health issues but prior to that we needed to discuss things when we weren't tired, sick, angry etc and were both ready to listen without being defensive. If you can do that you might get back to a good place. This sounds like poor communication and not appreciating each other more than something unfixable. Especially since you've supported each other successfully through terrible times. Be honest, but be kind.